Not Enough Sex?

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Not Enough Sex?
If you were promiscuous as a teenager, how can you be more discriminating as an adult?


Can you relate to this story?

When Genevieve, a Rapunzel, was younger, she had a long string of intimate relationships. She didn't see it as love sabotage. Sex was a natural part of her dating life. It started when she was 15. Sex became no big deal. Now at 43 and struggling to define love differently, she isn't sure what is normal.

"I think I am really in love. He makes me feel amazing. Every time we are together, I want to be with him more and more. We laugh and laugh together. We sleep in the same bed with our clothes on. But I don't WANT to have sex with him. Isn't that weird????"

She was talking really fast and I could feel her excitement. "Last night we had a long talk about sex, about what we like and don't like, fantasies and stuff like that. Then he asked me if I wanted to have sex."

"I burst out laughing and said no, I'm not ready and I wasn't afraid to tell him."
Then she collapsed in a fit of giggling. "ME!!" She howled, "Me turning down sex!!"
"Are you attracted to him?" I asked.

"That's the crazy thing," she said, "He is so handsome! I can't stop thinking about him and I want to be with him all the time."

So what's the problem? Genevieve doesn't want to have the same empty feeling inside when the guy disappears after sex. How can she solve this? Read on: Not Enough Sex?
 

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