Find out what to do if someone you love is in trouble.
Cats aren't the only ones that have nine lives. Apparently, Lindsay Lohan does too.
As a mom of two kids in their thirties, I am no stranger to watching adult children navigate through their dramas and traumas on their own. It is excruciatingly difficult to see my kids in emotional pain and know that I can't help them. Emotional pain is a part of growing up.
I have seen the Lohan family splashed over the headlines for years now and like you, this newest headline barely got my attention. That is, until I read that she entirely blamed the truck driver for this mishap.
Don't get me wrong, I am relieved that she and her assistant walked away from the accident alright. But when you rear-end a vehicle, you are at fault. It makes me wonder if Lindsay will find peace before meeting with a fate she can't recover from.
When Whitney Houston passed, I remember her friend and sister-in-law wept when they described how Whitney's face was in sweet peace as she laid on the bathroom floor, waiting for the ambulance to take her body away. Is this incredibly dark and gloomy? Yes it is. Sometimes, the very most gifted among us are the ones most susceptible to the poisons that ruin success.
I wish for Lindsay to find the peace and sobriety that Robert Downey Jr. has found. His many-storied history was quite similar to Lindsay's. He danced with death and changed partners and for that, I really admire him.
It's easy to pass judgment about Lindsay Lohan. Afterall, she has been given many, many chances at rehab. Like Amy Winehouse, perhaps she will reject rehab until the end. For her sake, I hope not. 8 Life Lessons From Mary Kennedy's Untimely Death
Is there someone in your family who is using and abusing, dancing with death and taking risks that terrify you? Here are five tips to help you detach from the drama and keep your wits about you:
1. Be real about how scared you are. Find a friend, counselor, coach or pastor and talk it through. It is extremely scary to have a family member taking legal or illegal drugs. Don't Panic! 7 Ways To Overcome Anxiety
2. Check out Al-Anon. This fabulous resource was a life saver for me during a time where a family member's drinking frightened me. The loving people at Al-Anon helped me more than I can say, and it was free to go. How I Learned To Love Myself In Alcoholics Anonymous
3. Create thoughts that don't terrify you. I know it is scary to think, "My daughter is taking speed," or "My husband's drinking is killing me." You can pick words to describe your situation that don't make you feel worse. Try, "My daughter is self medicating and needs help." Or, "My husband's drinking is a wake up call, I need to talk to someone."
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