I meet a lot of Scarletts who have been bullied by life into being a Snow White. Passionate from an early age, Scarlett emotes poetically and dramatically. Deeply inquisitive, a bit of an introvert when young and a sharp wit, she has always felt misunderstood. This sets up a web of defensiveness that is hard for intimates to reach through.
Scarletts often find themselves alone on Saturday nights during their teens and twenties. In their view, the sweet girls get the guy. Taking a vow to be sweet at all costs, these American Beauties squeeze themselves into a self imposed prison of patience.
Of course, little does she know that the Snow Whites of the world are trying to be like Scarletts. In their view, the smart sassy girls catch the hot guys attention. Snow White hates confrontation and often feels pushed by Scarlett's stronger vibe, so it is hard for deep friendships to grow between the two.
Scarlett hates confrontation too, don't get me wrong, it is just that she has a much shorter fuse. Snow White's fuse wraps all around the neighborhood and is generally so tangled, it can take her years to blow her top! Snow Whites move slowly and methodically and that drives Scarlett crazy!
So, what is a Sweet Scarlett to do? First order of business, she gets to stop being sweet. It is time for her to realize that it is wearing her out to be that sweet. Her love sabotage has taken the form of projecting an image different than her nature. That's just not sustainable. So what can you do?