Do You Need To Eject Your Ex...For Good?

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As bad as you feel right now, it could be worse...

"My ex drove by me today and I almost threw up. I couldn't believe how that wave of nausea hit me. It has been a whole year and I thought I was over him. I can't believe it. Luckily, I was near a Starbucks so I ran in to the bathroom, sat on the throne and composed myself. Will I ever get over him?"

Has this ever happened to you? I know it happened to me. I thought I was completely over some one. He had wrangled his way into my heart and even though he was absolutely the wrong kind of man, he was so devilishly charming and the seduction was delicious. When the inevitable breakup happened...he ran for the hills the minute I fell for him and I was heartbroken.

It took a long time to get over the shock of it. I tried everything. I remember visualizing him in a big slingshot between two palm trees, pulling back and flinging him out into the universe. The bugger would never stay out there. He came back night after night, day after day. I obsessed over "what we had"...which was nothing more than a speck on the radar of life.

I wrestled with my ex in my inner world for months and eventually evicted him for good. Or so I thought. Two years after the breakup, I saw him in a bar. He didn't see me, thankfully. My heart literally skipped a beat, my knees got weak and nausea hit me. Then I realized it wasn't even him, it was only someone who looked like him. Man! The 5 Commandments Of Breaking Up With Your Ex [VIDEO]

Breakups are hard to put behind you. When you let someone come very close and you let down your guard to create a connection, it is a huge gamble. There are no guarantees when it comes to love and if you have loved and lost, you may be blaming yourself for picking the wrong person.

The heartbreak is literally branded into parts of your brain and then sealed off so you can survive. As bad as you feel right now, it could be worse. Your brain is working over time to cope with the constant flow of stress chemicals in your body.

Blocking some of the painful memories is part of the plan. It is like some inner guardian parcels out the pain in small enough amounts to handle.

Most of the reason breakups are so bad is because they pull on the wounds from all the earlier betrayals you have experienced. The emotional pain of any loss dissolves itself gradually for some people.

Time passing, new loves, friendships and career changes restore confidence and self esteem. For some though, the pain doesn't dissolve. It stays buried until you see a reminder; then the flood of original feelings comes right back, as strong as ever.

If this is you, it is time that you take control of these past breakups once and for all. I know from personal experience that very painful memories from the past can be neutralized with the right tools. It is possible to get over your ex, once and for all. Bake Your Way Out Of Heartbreak

Lastly, here is a little Love Magnet test for you. Ever wonder how strong your love vibe is?

Think back to a significant breakup in your past. Allow yourself to remember the worst day. Think about the worst moment in that day. On a scale of 1 to 10, how painful was it? Today, as you think about it, how strong is the echo of that pain?

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There is a little bit of sugar in every breakup.  Find that hidden treasure and leverage it.  Learn
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Here is where to start: TheBreakupQuiz.com

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