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Did Bachelorette Ashley Pick The Wrong Man?

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Did Bachelorette Ashley Pick The Wrong Man?
When Sexual Chemistry and Thrill Chemistry Combine is it Love? Maybe. Advice for the Bachelorette.

Ashley Hebert picked strong, cool J.P. over sensual, vulnerable Ben.  I for one was surprised.  I felt the vibe between Ashley and Ben was the strongest.  Her feelings for J.P. never sold me. 

Creative editing can steer the feel of the series and I am sure that is part of the drama of this final rose ceremony.  Made me wonder about her again.  Do you see a pattern with Brad, Bentley and now J.P.?

Wined and dined and flown all over the world....who could make a reasonable decision, right?  The sexual chemistry combined with the thrill chemistry delivered in the fantasy dates makes rational thinking disappear  Watching Ashley's mad crush on J.P. annoyed some and enchanted others.  Meanwhile, there is Ben.  Wide-eyed Ben who was the most authentic of the three.

Didn't your heart go out to him?  I especially liked when he stopped Ashley and told her he didn't need any sugar coating.  Hugs to you, Ben.  Could be that creative editing, but damn he is a great guy.

Meanwhile, I can see why J.P. is crushing on Ashley, she is vibrant and young at heart.  I kept having to remind myself through the season that she is in dental school and that she must have a serious and mature side.  My concern is his security.  He struggled with jealousy throughout the season and that could close in on Ashley's free spirit.

I can see what her sister saw.  I see the vein in his head that betrays his cool appearance when he is stressed.  He is tightly wound and Ashley will be challenged to be herself first and a good partner second.  So, why was she sure J.P. was the one?

Good question.  Remember, she fell for Brad first and then Bentley.  She was sure about them at one point too.  As Ashley rushed to this rocky resolution of this season's Bachelorette, she has chosen another challenging guy. 

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