"I'd like to be a mom within 5 years." Anne Hathaway told James Franco in a recent interview on Good Morning America, making inquiring minds wonder what kind of man will be hers when she is ready for motherhood.
While the undeniable chemistry Hathaway enjoys with Franco is delicious and will make for a great Oscar Show, can Anne attract someone in real life with that kind of intoxicating chemistry and a good guy too? The collapse of her relationship with Italian real estate developer Raffaello Follieri in 2008 and the fact that she was seemingy blindsided by his illegal activities must have shocked her to the core.
When she is ready for motherhood, how will she trust herself to pick a man well suited to her? How can she keep from being hypnotized by crazy chemistry and fooled by the lies of an opportunistic man?
"I feel like I have to apologize for myself in front of most people." Anne said in her W Magazine interview. I felt an immediate sisterhood with this Oscar Nominated and now Oscar Hostessing star. I have been a fan since The Princess Diaries. Reminiscent of Mary Tyler Moore, this rising star's charisma is unmistakeable.
I was drawn to look at Hathaway's relationship sabotage after reading about her breakup with Follieri. I suspected she was a Snow White and when she mentioned apologizing all over herself, that sealed it. I have a Snow White Sabotage Style myself when it comes to relationships, so I can relate. But, in order to confidently transition into motherhood, she will need to communicate clearly with her man.
Snow White is the True Love Sabotage Style that can traps a sensitive woman in a cage of perfectionism and fear of letting people down. Hiding behind a mask of "I can handle everything thrown at me." her friends and contacts see her as capable and independent. But Snow Whites sabotage themselves by seeing only the good in people and can naively trust people with questionable agendas.
Giving loved ones the benefit of the doubt, it is excruciatingly difficult to confront the yellow flags that wave at her from the sidelines. When Anne lived with Follieri, her inner guidance was no doubt screaming at her, but in true Snow White fashion, she no doubt turned from the evidence of his poor character.
Snow White is expert at seeing the silver lining and will make excuses, over accommodate and put up with more than the other Saboteur Styles. Anne, having put her love life on hold, has devoted her energies to not only her career, she also is passionate about children's charities. Both efforts are thriving with her focus.
So what can a positive in life but disillusioned in love Snow White to do? Being blindsided by someone you adore is hard for anyone, but especially devastating for sensitive and dreamy Snow White. If she wants her next man to be The Man, she must keep her head and her heart in the game.