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Stop Settling For Mr. Wrong!

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Stop Settling For Mr. Wrong!
People all too frequently put up with unhealthy behaviors in a relationship and hope for change.

So many people allow others to control their destiny. They are literally “doormats” for another person. This behavior suggests they are asking their partners to step on them, take advantage of them, and use them as a human punching bag. It’s as if they are telling their partner, “When you decide you miss me, all you have to do is say you’re really, really sorry and it will erase the past behavior."

As a reality-based relationship counselor I look at how couples work out conflict and the complexities of their struggles. If they frequently struggle and yet they are learning from their mistakes, I encourage them to continue. I believe it’s fine to make mistakes in a relationship, but they should not repeat the same mistakes over and over again. That makes no sense.

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The next time you find yourself asking when enough is enough, I suggest you interpret that question and ask yourself, “What do I really mean, and how do I get on with the rest of my life?”

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It’s not easy, but the guarantee is when you stop the destructive patterns in your life and replace them with healthy choices, you are bound to get healthier results and healthier relationships.
The bottom line is that you have to decide that you deserve more and until you do .... you will be dealing with the same types of behavior over and over again...and expecting different results!
 

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