Now combine those two statement into one. It may sound like:
Well, although, he makes me feel stupid at times, he does appreciate me too.
There are times that she treats me like a child, but she appreciates me too.
By fleshing out the truth behind your feelings, you can reduce their intensity and are less likely to lash out at your partner because of them. For more information on how to do this, you can pick up Mind Over Mood by Christine Padesky.
—Carol the Coach, Counselor/Therapist