Divorce, Emotions & Healing


Divorce, Emotions & Healing
Feeling that you are the victim of your circumstance in divorce comes up often.

I love doing this; whatever it is and getting back out there and doing those things that are fun, doing those things that bring enjoyment.

It is about listening to yourself and then being surrounded by people who do know how to encourage you and put positive energy in your space. And that can hold that space for you, because sometimes we have a hard time holding that space for ourselves.


If we have a couple of really good friends around you, you just say, "Just hold this space for me to just keep moving with elegance and with grace and hold that thing knowing that it's helping me through this". And actually asking for help because a lot of people, especially women, we don't ask for help.

That's one of those things that in the past it's like "OK Marjean, why won't you ask for help? And by asking for help it's not that you're weak, it's not that you're anything like that, it's just allowing somebody else to give their gift.

My advice to women about moving on emotionally after divorce is to be open to receive. Be open to receive more love, be open to receive more goodness, just become really good receiver again because I know a lot of times that you want to shut down emotionally. It's like "I'll never do that again", "I'll never open my heart to anyone again" and "I won't do that" and yeah we all say those things.

However, just be open, just be open as challenging as it can be, just be open for something great and know something great is coming, something great is happening right now.

I would love to say that time heals, and that it won't always be easy. However, just the fact that women are equipped with the ability to give birth and release the pain of childbirth, to have some women go through that process over and over and over again. It's like I always say if a man had to go through childbirth, they'd never have children again.

It's like we've been given that ability to have children, release whatever comes with that as far as trauma and stress or pain and some of us go through and do it again.

There is light at the end of the tunnel and the tunnel may seem long but there's always light and to keep moving. Just one step at a time, one step at a time.

Some days those steps are going to be big and other days those steps are going to be tiny but just to keep moving one step at a time.

You are going to go through many different emotions and there are all natural, they are all normal and it's OK to go through them and to actually accept them because you'll be able to move on faster if you accept these emotions as they come.

And not trying to say I'm bad for feeling that. It's like no, this is what I'm feeling and it's OK."


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