3. Your standards!
• Write down the standards that you have been saying to yourself that you should have; let go of these and write down a list of the standards that you are going to have in your life from this day forward.
• List 5 people who you admire the most. Identify their greatest qualities, behaviour and how they lead their life. What standards so they have? What standards could you raise starting today to be more like them?
• Respect that other’s standards will be different from your own. Think of 5 close colleagues or friends – what are their standards and how are they different to yours?
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By completing these exercises you will be able to focus more on the here the now and the future.
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You will now be able to let go of some of the things that have been taking up your valuable attention units – those things that knock your self esteem.