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Friday The 13th... (What's Love Got To Do With It? Read on!)

Friday The 13th... (What's Love Got To Do With It? Read on!)
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Do you suffer from triskaidekaphobia?
   
   (Fear of big foreign words - I mean, fear of Friday the 13th?)
   
   Apparently a whopping 17 to 21 MILLION Americans do! (And WHO KNOWS how many others all over the world?)

   And we LOSE between $800 to $900 MILLION in business when that OMINOUS number falls on that UNHAPPY day...

   Why?
   
   Because people are afraid to do what they'd normally do - they won't fly, they won't buy stocks, they won't purchase a new car...

   (I wasn't kidding when I joked above that you may feel afraid to leave the house... But many accidents happen at home, so maybe you SHOULD leave the house before you fall in the shower or trip over the dog or something. KIDDING!)

   Why all the worry over a number that just happens to coincide with a day of the week?

   What's it all about and how did it all start - and what do THE STARS have to do with it? ('Cuz you know they have SOMETHING to do with it...)

   There are MANY theories of the origins of Friday the 13th.

   And they come from many different cultures...
   
   There's a Norse myth in which 12 gods are having a dinner party in heaven. In walks an uninvited 13th guest. He convinces the blind god of darkness to shoot the god of joy and gladness, "Balder the Beautiful" with a mistletoe-tipped arrow.

   So he did, and Balder died and the whole world mourned and became dark.

   Many Christians note that there were 13 guests at the Last Supper and that the last to arrive (hmmm, the 13th guest - sounds familiar) was Judas, the apostle who betrayed Jesus, leading to his crucifiction.

   As for what the stars have to do with any of this, it seems the number 13 is thought to be inauspicious because it comes right AFTER the number 12.

   12 is thought to be a number of completion.
   
   There are 12 months in a year, 12 signs of the zodiac (aha! The celestial connection!), 12 hours in a day, 12 gods of Olympus, 12 labors of Hercules, 12 tribes of Israel, and 12 apostles of Jesus. Even twelve days of Christmas... (which I believe BEGIN on Friday the 13th this year!)

   In exceeding 12 by 1, it's thought that 13's association with bad luck is because it's unstable or imbalanced somehow...

   It wasn't just in olden times that the number was feared. Today, more than 80% of highrises have no 13th floor. City streets that are numbered often "skip" 13th Avenue, airports often have no 13th gate, race tracks have no 13th horse stall, hospitals have no rooms numbered 13...

   And who could forget the ill-fated mission to the moon, Apollo 13?

   As for Friday, there are numerous theories as well...

   It's the day Jesus was crucified.
   
   Eve apparently tempted Adam with the "forbidden fruit" on a Friday.
   
   And it's rumored that Cain killed Abel on Friday the 13th. (Seems to me these last two examples were before calendars... I'm just sayin'.)

   It's likely that the degradation of Friday's reputation harkens back to Scandinavia and another Norse myth...

   You see, Friday is actually named for the Norse goddess, Frigga, the goddess of love and fertility.

   (It's the only day of the week named after a female. Interestingly, in other cultures Friday is named after Venus, the Roman Goddess of love, too...)

   When Germanic and Norse tribes were converted to Christianity, they stopped their Pagan traditions, and all mention of Frigga was disallowed.

   It was thought that she hid in the mountains and gathered on Fridays with eleven witches, and had a 13th guest (there it is again...) who just happened to be (wait for it)...

   ...the Devil.

   And together they'd plot negative events for the coming week.

   Friday became known as "the Witches' Sabbath" in Scandinavia for centuries...

   (You see, when you banish LOVE you become a WITCH! :))

   So, I have a suggestion for this day - and for every day for that matter.

   Let's bring Frigga back.
   
   Let's celebrate all things having to do with love.   

   It's said that the only way to conquer fear is with love.

   So if you've got an unusual amount of anxiety about Friday the 13th, let's TURN THAT AROUND by doing something you love on this day.

   (Or doing SOMEONE you love on this day - did you know the average American has 13 lovers in their lifetime? See - it's not such a terrible number. But I digress...)

   If you need more love in your life, you may be suffering from - "Androphobia" - fear of MEN.

   I can help you with "Astrophobia" - a fear of stars...

   (These are actually REAL phobias!)

   My favorite program for helping you identify the parts of you that may be setting you up to be more in fear than faith, and to help you turn that around is "Astrological Attraction."

   Some of us were born anxious, or insecure, or depressive... and it's not our fault. But what makes it worse, is when we JUDGE ourselves for being this way, and think we should just "get over it."

   We come in with certain astrological combinations (called "yogas") that reveal our nature - and they are utterly amazing!

   In "Astrological Attraction" I teach you how to diagnose your main "Attraction Yogas" - the parts of you that attract men to you, or PUSH them away, so that you can know just what to do to understand yourself, and be your best self.

   You see, men LOVE to be around women that are happy - and feel best in love around a woman they think they are making happy.

   So find out how to be the happiest you possible.    

   So check it out so you'll be able to say, "This Friday the 13th was the best day ever!"

   You can read all about it here.

   In the meantime, may God and his planets and stars shower you with love TODAY, tomorrow, and every day!

When it comes to your relationships that are personal and emotional, looking to a man's Sun sign in relation to yours won't explain how you'll relate. You can learn more about this, and so many other amazing truths at the intersection of astrology and love in a free newsletter you can sign up for here: Click here to receive Carol’s newsletter for free.

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