By Carol Allen It can be tough to get back out there again after you've been disappointed in the love department, but there are two things you have to keep in mind in order to finally break out of the heartbreak cycle. Know Your "WHY" In my experience, if you don't have a strong, deep, thrilling reason for wanting something, then as soon as it becomes even slightly difficult or challenging to attain, you'll lose heart and give up too easily. This is true in any area of life — you have to have an incredible reason to follow through on your most cherished goals to be able to sustain the effort. That's why it's very important for you to know why you want love in the first place. And you'd better have a very good, compelling reason that you can get seriously excited about. Here's an example: We all know we should save money and not carry credit-card debt. Yet many of us fall into this problem. But what if you were to get a phone call from Brad Pitt saying, "If you pay off your credit cards within three months, I'll give you a starring role in my next movie. We'll be shooting for five months in Tahiti. How does TEN MILLION DOLLARS sound? An oh yeah, you'll get to do a love scene with me."??? Do you think that would be motivating? Do you think you could muster the strength to stop using your credit cards? Do you think you'd find a way to pay them off — hocking your jewelry, holding car washes and garage sales, doing whatever it took? Me, too!!! As this little story illustrates, your "WHY" is the reason you're working for something — it's the VISION you have that's so attractive and desirable to you that it makes every misstep, setback, and disappointment worth it. Without a "WHY," you won't know why you're going for what you're going for, and you won't have an intense enough reason to keep going when the going gets tough. So, I'll ask you — WHY do you want a relationship? What would your life be like if you had one — not just any old relationship, but a GREAT one? One that fed you on a spiritual, emotional, physical, heck — even financial level? What would that do for your life? And how could that lead to other spectacular stuff — extended family, children, a home, greater social networks, someone to take out the trash, etc... If you don't figure this WHY out for yourself, then you'll be relying on discipline alone to get what you want. This doesn't work. Simply telling yourself, "I have to do this...I have to work really hard" without knowing the BIG PAYOFF isn't enough to keep doing whatever it'll take to get you to your desired result. Don't Take It Personally Unlike credit card bills, there's something else that comes into play when it comes to dating and relationships. You think everything that happens, no matter how small, means something about YOU. As an astrologer, I have a unique point of view on relationships. I've come to believe that even who we meet and who we feel a strong connection to — and WHEN — is up to fate. It isn't personal — there are either "love connections" between your chart and that of someone else, or there aren't.
By Carol AllenI don't know about you, but I'm bundled up good. Seriously, I look like a crazy bag lady or something. I'm wearing the works - hat, scarf, sweater, leggings, thick socks with long underwear - layers galore. I've got the heater blasting, and all my pets (my dog and two cats) are lying on heating ... Read more
By Carol AllenIf you've been feeling funky lately, it's likely because you were born on planet Earth! (And that you live in this solar system—I'm just guessing!) Seriously: the planetary influences are intense now, and have been for a while. Fortunately, they’re not so VIOLENTLY intense as they were in the summertime (so much so that I ... Read more
By Carol AllenAstrology is full of interesting terms, jargon, and phrases to describe various astronomical and astrological phenomena. Unless you've studied astrology, chances are you've never heard of most of this astrological lingo before. So today, we're having a "lingo lesson." We'll be looking at the word "combust" which has a great ... Read more
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