Each person should have a reasonable amount of freedom to make decisions and to be who they are. I believe we each have things we were put on this earth to accomplish. Call it purpose or destiny or whatever. The thing is, that purpose or destiny is not to eat, sleep, live, and breathe to please another human being or to fulfill the every wish and whim of other people.
There is help for partners and spouses who are being abused. They don't have to stay in an unhealthy or dangerous relationship. It isn't easy to find the courage to set limits and stick to them, but people have done it and are thankful they got out of a toxic situation. With support and counseling, they are able to have perspective on what made that relationship unhealthy and dangerous and heal the wounds they're carrying that would make them vulnerable to repeating the pattern with someone else. Many people who have experienced physical or emotional abuse by a romantic partner go on to find someone who will enter into an adult to adult relationship with them. This means that person loves them for who they are and treats them like an equal deserving of respect and sensitivity.
For further information, you can contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at