To forgive or not forgive? That is the question. Have you ever been a victim of domestic violence or abuse? Do you know what it's like to be on either side? It's interesting that the people who comment, in my mind, probably have never even been through it themselves. We are always quick to point fingers and pass judgement when we have no understanding & appreciation for what actually occurred. 3 Reasons We're Angry About Rihanna Secretly Seeing Chris Brown
Let's be clear. Domestic violence and abuse is wrong and should be addressed and fixed immediately. Rihanna and Chris understand this better than anyone having been through it themselves. Usually when domestic violence occurs, it is a combination of very bad circumstances, heated feelings and emotions. Is this wrong? Absolutely! Can it be fixed? Absolutely! The abuser is not always a repeat offender.
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My own research on the assessment of risk for recurrent maltreatment proves that it is very low as reported by caseworkers dealing with domestic abuse cases. In fact if there is something that will help this couple, it is that their private lives are so public which is a big deterrent for there to be a repeat incident. What Does The Future Hold for Rihanna & Chris Brown?
So why don't we focus on the positives here? We are all accountable for our choices and this young couple recognizes that a very bad thing happened to them. Rihanna has stated: I was going through the hardest time of my life. I was angry, sad, confused, torn. I was still in love. And I needed to talk about it. That was the only way I could get peace, because it was in my head, and I couldn't leave it there.
Chris was publicly humiliated and saddened by this event. Whenever you see pictures of the couple, they definitely seem to be very much in love and I applaud their efforts in playing to their strengths and getting through this situation. Honesty, trust and communication are foundations to a fulfilling and lasting relationship. All relationships go through shares of highs and lows. If we can learn anything from this situation, I would ask the following questions rather that criticize them:
- What can we learn about domestic abuse to better understand it?
- How can we educate people on the getting the right help?
- What can be done when domestic abuse occurs?
- How does a couple survive and get over a domestic abuse incident?
As for Rihanna and Chris Brown, I appreciate the efforts as a couple to stand strong and get the help and support needed to get through this. Life is short and not meant to be wasted. As for the nay sayers, domestic abuse is wrong, no doubt. So right the wrongs if you are passionate about it and stop focusing on a couple that has no impact to your life! Right & Wrong Things To Tell Kids About Chris Brown
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