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The Three Most Important Words in a Relationship

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The Three Most Important Words in a Relationship
Here’s a hint. They’re not, "Let’s have sex."

Of course, “I’m sorry” has to come from the right place to be meaningful. It can’t be rote—going through the motions never touches the emotions. It shouldn’t be inflated, either. The “I’m sorry” that sounds like “I’m an awful person” will come across as self-absorbed and not genuinely caring unless your behavior truly has been awful—and interrupting or talking too much at a dinner party doesn’t qualify.

Bottom line, a dignified, self- (and other-) respecting “I’m sorry” will do fine.

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So what are the three most important words in a relationship?

Not “I love you,” though saying that frequently is a fine idea.

Not “let’s have sex,” though having sex often is also a fine idea.

No: it’s “I am sorry,” three little words that are a wondrous cure-all for the inevitable hurts, little and big, that are our lot in intimate relationships.

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