5. Make focusing on your part a top priority. Why? Because the only person you have the power to change and be accountable for is you. The more you obsess on your partner's actions, the less you are able to react to a situation in a smart, mature way. When couples get locked into the "he did this" and "she did that" dance, they might as well go jump into a pool of mud and start flinging dirt at each other. In other words, the "blame" dance will only make the conflict snowball.
In conclusion, I urge you all to start implementing these 5 steps right away. You have nothing to lose and only a happier relationship to gain.