What You Get Really Wrong About Love (That KILLS Your Shot At True Love)

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What You Get Wrong About Love
Love

In fact, we ALL get it wrong.

At some point in our lives, we've been told there's someone out there for us or that one day we will find "the one" we are destined to be with.

I'm sure many of us have been told there's a soulmate out in the world for you. We are so focused on finding love and finding the "perfect" one that we don't take the time to learn about ourselves and love ourselves.

How could we possibly love someone or give ourselves to another person if we don't even have a clear picture of who we are?

There are many reasons why relationships end and anyone who has had a failed relationship needs to read this. It's about damn time we start sending the right message to future generations so they can grow to be independent and strong individuals.

So, what exactly are we all getting wrong about love or being in love? The fairytale wedding or the honeymoon that eventually ends? The concept of a soulmate that we keep chasing in circles?

It's so much more than that. Here is what you get wrong about love (in fact, we all get it wrong): 

1. You put your worth in someone else.

No one should ever seek for their worth in someone else. What makes the other person qualified to make the determination of worth? No one defines your worth except for you.

When you leave your worth in the hands of another, you're setting yourself up to be hurt or failure.

2. Love conquers all.

It doesn't. Sorry to burst your bubble. It takes work and effort from everyone involved. Throughout life, we are constantly changing and evolving. That means whoever you're with is not only going to have to adapt to those changes but accept them. And that is no guarantee.

There are no guarantees in relationships or life in general so all you really have is the person you are and it's important to get to know and love that person.

3. "...and they live happily ever after..."

False! I'm not saying it doesn't happen because I'm sure many people have lived happily ever afters with their partner.

What I am saying is having the preconceived notion of what happily ever after looks like and the reality of life are two very different things.

Life doesn't always go according to our plan. If you have this idea of what it's supposed to look like, it will fail more often than not.

As many say, reality bites. We have minimal control over what happens in our relationships. The only thing you have control over is your behavior and actions toward a relationship. And if you have this picture perfect idea of what it's supposed to look like, you'll be chasing it forever.

4. You don't have to work for love.

Whoever said love is enough was lying or misinformed. Love and relationships take constant work and effort. How else would you and your partner work anything else?

We are not entitled to love and happiness in this life. Everything you want, you'll have to work for. If that seems unfair, than we have a whole other issue of entitlement to discuss but that's not the focus here.

Life doesn't usually hand things to people on a silver platter without putting in the work or time to make it work. Without time and effort, your relationship is most likely going to fail.

5. Your soulmate is out there.

Do you really think there is one single person in the entire world just for you? Well, if so, good luck trying to find that one person.

People are too focused on finding "the one" and completely miss out on opportunities for love, relationships, and happiness.

We're always focusing on what happened or what's to come that we miss the entire chunk of life in the moment. And you can't get those moments or time back.

Stop searching for the love of your life. Trust in the process and go with the flow. Stop wasting energy on what was or what is to come. Embrace the journey. It becomes part of your story.

So, what you're getting wrong about love is within yourself. It's time to get to know yourself and who you are. You could get it right in terms of love if you stop searching outside and take a look deep down inside.

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