Gay & Single on Valentine's Day--8 Holiday Survival Strategies


Gay & Single on Valentine's Day--8 Holiday Survival Strategies
How to take charge of your single life and overcome the Valentine's Day Blues

Although this is definitely a work-in-progress, spend some time this evening alone with yourself to plot out your specific needs and goals as a way to improve your dating success. Create a vision of your ideal balanced lifestyle and of your ideal partner and relationship. What are the specific qualities and characteristics that you require? What are your negotiable and non-negotiable needs as it pertains to these parts of your life? What has been working for you along the way and in what ways might you be self-sabotaging your efforts in finding Mr. Right? How are your dating and social skills? How are your self-esteem, confidence, and assertiveness skills? What areas of your life help vs. hinder your quest? Use this information to make improvements in those areas in need of strengthening and draft an action plan using this knowledge for accomplishing your relationship goals that are driven by your values.



The important point to be made here is to acknowledge your feelings that you're experiencing about Valentine's Day, process them, and channel them into productive outlets. Avoid putting so much stock into the meanings and symbolism of this day and instead be proactive and make this day positive one that will allow you to keep the momentum going as you keep living and striving toward your vision of your ideal lifestyle. Valentine's Day is for singles too! It's all in what you make of it!

© Dr. Brian L. Rzepczynski, The Gay Love Coach


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Brian Rzepczynski


Dr. Brian Rzepczynski, Licensed Relationship Coach, is The Gay Love Coach: “I work with gay men who are ready to create a road map that will lead them to find and build a lasting partnership with Mr. Right.” To sign up for the FREE Gay Love Coach Newsletter filled with dating, relationship, and sexual enrichment tips and skills for gay singles and couples, as well as to check out current coaching groups, programs, and teleclasses, please visit

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Credentials: LCSW, MSW, Other
Specialties: Couples/Marital Issues, Dating/Being Single Support, Gay/Lesbian/Identity Issues, Sex Therapy
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