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The #1 Thing You NEED to Do After A Breakup (If You Want Him Back)

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Want you get your ex back? You MUST first do this.

There’s no denying that breakups are tough, even when you’re the one who decides to call it quits. From heartache and regret to loneliness and even liberation, chances are you’ll feel a slew of emotions in the days, weeks or even months that follow the split.

In the midst of all these emotions, it’s common for exes to come to a very serious realization: they want to get back together. While this is easier to do in cases where the feeling is mutual, it’s still possible to win your ex back, even if they’ve vowed to never date you again.

But how?

While there any many things you can and should do to work on winning your ex back, there is one that surmounts the rest: to change the way your ex thinks about you.

Since your ex probably has a sour taste towards you and the relationship, it’s important that you change their thoughts and feelings. In other words, you’ll want to replace their negative opinions of you with positive ones to make him or her to realize how great life is with you in, and how much they miss having you around.

Even if the breakup was mutual or you still get along great (best case scenario), chances are your ex still sees you in a negative light because let’s face it, things didn’t work out between the two of you. On the other hand, if the breakup was ugly and your ex has heaps of resentment towards you, well that’s where things get tricky.

So then, if you want your ex to take you back you’re going to need to make them think about you the same way they did when you first got together. Once they do, your chances of winning and getting back together skyrocket!

But how exactly can you rewire your ex’s subconscious to make them feel this way?


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The trick is to make them feel like they need you in their life, in a way that’s powerful enough to overcome any logic or reasoning. When this happens, your ex will forget all the reasons why you broke up in the first place.

Since we, humans, are emotional creatures, our sexual and emotional desires weigh heavy in our decision making. This means that if you can get your ex to feel for you what they once did, then they will come crawling back, begging for another chance.

Now, in order to do this, you’re going to use a bit of reverse-psychology. Since your natural instinct is to beg and plead with your ex to take you back, by doing the opposite, you’ll not only surprise him or her, but you’ll make them want you back!

Since begging your ex to take you back and appearing desperate isn’t attractive, behaving in such a way will only reinforce the reasons why the two of you split up in the first place. Hence, why it doesn’t work. In fact, even simply talking to your ex too soon after the breakup can be damaging because emotions are still running so high.

So, if you want to win him or her back, then this is the last thing you’ll want to do. Instead, if you’re hoping to win your ex back, cut off all contact for at least 30 days. Doing so will give him or her the time needed to change their feelings towards you.

That said, changing your ex’s feelings towards you isn’t always a quick and easy process. In fact, it can take weeks or even months for him or her to let go and replace their negative thoughts with positive ones.

To help speed up the process, keep these three tips in mind:

1. Avoid your ex at all costs.


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Of course, this can be tricky, especially if you work together or have children, but whenever possible limit your interactions with your ex.

If you don’t have obligations to one another then avoid your ex and cut off all contact completely. You’d be surprised how quick and effective simply not talking to them after the breakup can be. In fact, once your ex gets a taste of life without you, that alone can be enough to change their mind about the breakup.

Why? Because when you unexpectedly disappear from their daily routine it’s going to shock them. This is why it’s so important that you don’t agree to be friends with your ex following a breakup.

Sure, it may sound nice to keep in touch, but if you do, it won’t give them the chance to miss you, which is exactly what needs to happen if you’re going to win them back.

2. Keep busy.

Just like you wouldn’t be attracted to someone who was down in life or always upset, neither will your ex. This is why it’s so important that you don’t let them see how bummed you are about the breakup. Instead, you want to show them that you’re just fine on your own.

To do so, keep busy. Go out with friends, spend time with family, pick up a new hobby or hit the gym. When you send out the message that you’re doing great and living life to the fullest, your ex will want you back.

3. Make your ex jealous.


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While you should never intentionally try to hurt your ex’s feelings or make them resent you, a little bit of subtle jealousy can take you far with winning them back. So, if you’re willing to go the extra mile to make your ex miss you then it may be time to considering dating someone new.

Of course, this sounds counter-productive, but doing so is an effective tactic because if your ex sees you moving on, it will make him or her question if breaking up was a bad idea. Just like you’d realize what a great catch your ex is if they started seeing someone new soon after the breakup, they will too.

Now the good news is that you don’t have to actually date anyone to make your ex jealous. There are things you can do to create mystery and intrigue that will almost certainly cause your ex to wonder who you’re with and what you’re doing.

That alone will stir up feelings of jealousy and works wonders for winning them back. Just be careful because if your ex realizes that you’re TRYING to make them jealous, it will backfire and do some serious damage to your chances.

For more information on how to get an ex back after a breakup click here and watch the free video presentation. In it, you’ll discover some sneaky, psychological strategies that are guaranteed to make your ex want you back!

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