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Dr John McMahon & Lou Lewis, Author

Dr John McMahon & Lou Lewis - Author, Counselor/Therapist, Pastoral Counselor, Psychologist, Relationship Coach, Speaker/Presenter, YourTango Expert Partner - Exeter, DEV
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Living With An Alcoholic

One of the commonest questions anyone working in the addiction field is asked is "How can I stop my wife/husband/partner from drinking so much?" Unfortunately the short answer to that is - you can't. They will stop when it suits them, whether that is ...

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Married to an alcoholic – tips to survive Xmas

For many Xmas is a time of peace and joy, a time of goodwill to all men.  Its a time of celebration, eating too much and falling asleep on the sofa.  It is a time for families, for children (big and small) for extravagance and fun.  However, for a significant minority it is a nightmare, a time to ...

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The Good News About Living With An Alcoholic

That is probably a headline that you did not expect.  Living with an alcoholic and there is good news.  For most people who live with an alcoholic good news is rare.  If you live with an alcoholic you probably feel that your life is one disaster ...

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Living With an Alcoholic - Detach and rediscover you

In the last article, Living with an alcoholic - Why detach with love?, we discussed the need to detach from the alcoholic. In this article we will discuss how to detach, what it means and how to ...

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Living With an Alcoholic - Why Detach With Love

When you live with an alcoholic one of the best survival strategies is to detach, preferably with love. If you live with an alcoholic or a problem drinker you will almost certainly find yourself worrying about if he is going to drink, when he is going to drink, ...

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Success Stories

A more meaningful dialogue with my partner

I have found Bottled-Up to be of great help in changing my own behaviour - I realised that if I simply kept on repeating nagging, arguing, threatening et, I would just repeat the same cycle as before.

By staying calm and applying the principles I read about I have managed to open a more meaningful dialogue with my partner, and she has sought out therapy on her own.

I don't expect everything to be solved now, but my life - and hers - have certainly taken a big step forward.



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Given me an avenue of release

I found Bottled Up by accident one night, while browsing the net and after a couple of nights of reading (and liking) the philosophy in it and behind it, I decided to become a member. Without a doubt it has helped me put things in perspective, has helped me re-evaluate my situation, has given me an avenue of release when I needed to tell someone what I was going through, but had no-one I could tell. It has allowed me to stand back from an all-consuming situation and realise that there are many others out there going through the same situation - and sometimes worse, but able to talk about it openly and frankly and get support from others who understand.

I like the techniques described in Bottled Up... they were not the panacea for all things wrong in my life - but they were the starting point I needed - I was drowning in a whirlpool of shame and secrecy, going around in endless circles of blame, guilt, threats, hope and despair - and taking time out to sit down and work through HOPE, SHARE, LOVE helped me to focus away from the problem and start focusing on what I could take control of; It changed my attitude to our relationship - and slowly, it's having an impact on both of us - for the better. Taking that first step to open up and let some of the hurt and anger spill out in a safe and anonymous environment, lifted one of the clouds that was over me. thank you.

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Life has become better, more manageable

I joined Bottled-up looking for solutions, ideas and coping skills to cope with living with a problem drinker in my case my husband. I have allowed his drinking let my life become unmanagable both for myself, my children and even my husband.

Bottled-up helps in alot of ways from the information provided, sharing in the discussion forum (my favourite) and audios provided by John and Lou. All these tools,advice and comments from John and Lou help when living with a problem drinker.

When I stopped blaming the drinking for my unhappiness and started letting go of MY ANGER towards my husbands drinking things began to change slowly for me.

I started to recover from the effects drinking has had on me. I do not feel sorry for myself anymore. Since arming myself with all this information, the dipping in and out of the discussion forum, life has become better, more manageable for me.

I am extremely grateful and consider myself lucky to have found this wonderful site. Life can only get better no matter what the outcome, I now know that I can handle it.

Dee Dee, Ireland



 

Main SpecialtyAddiction
Drug and Alcohol
Family Support
CredentialsBS, PhD
Time in Practice25 years +
I practice inAll areas, please inquire
Additional ExpertiseCounselor/Therapist
Pastoral Counselor
Psychologist
Relationship Coach
Speaker/Presenter
YourTango Expert Partner
I offer my servicesAt my office
Telephone
By Email
Via Skype
I am fluent inEnglish
Latest Expert Videos
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Bottled Up: A Guide to Surviving Living with a Problem Drinker

'Hazardous drinking' in the UK is widespread: 24.2% according to a ...

USD $14.29

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First Steps Out of Problem Drinking

A former alcoholic turned tutelary for other wayward ...

USD $8.96

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Main SpecialtyAddiction
Drug and Alcohol
Family Support
CredentialsBS, PhD
Time in Practice25 years +
I practice inAll areas, please inquire
Additional ExpertiseCounselor/Therapist
Pastoral Counselor
Psychologist
Relationship Coach
Speaker/Presenter
YourTango Expert Partner
I offer my servicesAt my office
Telephone
By Email
Via Skype
I am fluent inEnglish
Latest Expert Videos
My Store

Bottled Up: A Guide to Surviving Living with a Problem Drinker

'Hazardous drinking' in the UK is widespread: 24.2% according to a ...

USD $14.29

Buy online

First Steps Out of Problem Drinking

A former alcoholic turned tutelary for other wayward ...

USD $8.96

Buy online