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Dr John McMahon & Lou Lewis, Author

Dr John McMahon & Lou Lewis - Author, Counselor/Therapist, Pastoral Counselor, Psychologist, Relationship Coach, Speaker/Presenter, YourTango Expert Partner - Exeter, DEV
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Buried Alive: The Secret World Of The Alcoholic's Partner

Every now and then, we receive notification that someone has started joining our website for the partners' of alcoholics, but they have not completed the process. We usually, at this point, send a courtesy email to see if there are any problems we can help with. Just ...

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Dear Lea Michele: It Is Going To Be Okay

We wrote an article recently about the sad and early death of Cory Monteith, on which someone commented "Do you have you any advice for Lea Michele?"  If advice would be useful, I ...

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Learning From Cory Monteith: Getting To the Root Of Addiction

Until a couple of days ago, I had never heard of Cory Monteith. Sadly, it was his tragic death that brought him to my attention.  I am not a Glee fan, but our daughter? Now that is a completely different story.  So when I asked her who Cory ...

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Can I Believe He Loves Me When He Drinks Much More Than I Want?

I well remember the first time it happened, about a year into our marriage. The evening meal was ready to be served up and I was listening out for the usual key in the door. Why on earth was he so late?  First I was angry because the food was burning, but as the minutes ticked by. anger was replaced by ...

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How To Cope With Your Drunk Partner (& Save The Relationship)

Most of us will come across people who are drinking too much in social situations. And to be fair, who hasn't — from time to time — had one (or three) too many drinks at their own birthday party? The summer season is nearly upon us. It's time for ...

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Success Stories

A more meaningful dialogue with my partner

I have found Bottled-Up to be of great help in changing my own behaviour - I realised that if I simply kept on repeating nagging, arguing, threatening et, I would just repeat the same cycle as before.

By staying calm and applying the principles I read about I have managed to open a more meaningful dialogue with my partner, and she has sought out therapy on her own.

I don't expect everything to be solved now, but my life - and hers - have certainly taken a big step forward.



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Given me an avenue of release

I found Bottled Up by accident one night, while browsing the net and after a couple of nights of reading (and liking) the philosophy in it and behind it, I decided to become a member. Without a doubt it has helped me put things in perspective, has helped me re-evaluate my situation, has given me an avenue of release when I needed to tell someone what I was going through, but had no-one I could tell. It has allowed me to stand back from an all-consuming situation and realise that there are many others out there going through the same situation - and sometimes worse, but able to talk about it openly and frankly and get support from others who understand.

I like the techniques described in Bottled Up... they were not the panacea for all things wrong in my life - but they were the starting point I needed - I was drowning in a whirlpool of shame and secrecy, going around in endless circles of blame, guilt, threats, hope and despair - and taking time out to sit down and work through HOPE, SHARE, LOVE helped me to focus away from the problem and start focusing on what I could take control of; It changed my attitude to our relationship - and slowly, it's having an impact on both of us - for the better. Taking that first step to open up and let some of the hurt and anger spill out in a safe and anonymous environment, lifted one of the clouds that was over me. thank you.

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Life has become better, more manageable

I joined Bottled-up looking for solutions, ideas and coping skills to cope with living with a problem drinker in my case my husband. I have allowed his drinking let my life become unmanagable both for myself, my children and even my husband.

Bottled-up helps in alot of ways from the information provided, sharing in the discussion forum (my favourite) and audios provided by John and Lou. All these tools,advice and comments from John and Lou help when living with a problem drinker.

When I stopped blaming the drinking for my unhappiness and started letting go of MY ANGER towards my husbands drinking things began to change slowly for me.

I started to recover from the effects drinking has had on me. I do not feel sorry for myself anymore. Since arming myself with all this information, the dipping in and out of the discussion forum, life has become better, more manageable for me.

I am extremely grateful and consider myself lucky to have found this wonderful site. Life can only get better no matter what the outcome, I now know that I can handle it.

Dee Dee, Ireland



 

Main SpecialtyAddiction
Drug and Alcohol
Family Support
CredentialsBS, PhD
Time in Practice25 years +
I practice inAll areas, please inquire
Additional ExpertiseCounselor/Therapist
Pastoral Counselor
Psychologist
Relationship Coach
Speaker/Presenter
YourTango Expert Partner
I offer my servicesAt my office
Telephone
By Email
Via Skype
I am fluent inEnglish
Latest Expert Videos
Main SpecialtyAddiction
Drug and Alcohol
Family Support
CredentialsBS, PhD
Time in Practice25 years +
I practice inAll areas, please inquire
Additional ExpertiseCounselor/Therapist
Pastoral Counselor
Psychologist
Relationship Coach
Speaker/Presenter
YourTango Expert Partner
I offer my servicesAt my office
Telephone
By Email
Via Skype
I am fluent inEnglish
Latest Expert Videos
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Bottled Up: A Guide to Surviving Living with a Problem Drinker

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First Steps Out of Problem Drinking

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