Oh, Rush, Rush, Rush. Do you have any idea how deeply wounded you are? Do you not see how your thwarted view of the opposite sex is fueled by untold fear and confusion about what it means to be a man? Did you miss the sexual revolution of the 1960’s which has evolved into the awareness that sexual expression between caring, consenting adults can actually be emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually healthy? And what about the women’s movement of the 1970’s, which is still struggling to bring forth equality between men and women in all walks of life, including the bedroom? Did none of that rub off on you? Evidently not. To call Sandra Fluke a “nympho” and a “slut” simply because she wishes to express her sexuality in ways that do not bring forth children or risk venereal disease is based on a very old, dysfunctional, and ultimately destructive paradigm.
Of course, Rush, I realize that you are far from alone in holding such archaic beliefs around women, sexuality, male-female relations, etc. Your indoctrination is based on a long history of male domination and female suppression. You have been socialized to believe that masculinity is equated with conquest and control – of women, other men and nature. But it was not always like this. Centuries ago, (from around 5000-3000 BCE), prior to the era of the ancient Greeks, a number of European and Middle Eastern societies formed social structures that were partnership based. And in some of these cultures, women were worshipped and their sexuality held sacred. The period ended when warlike invaders conquered them and set up a heirarchical model organized around patterns of domination and ranking by sex, race, class, etc. .A number of brilliant historians have studied the origins of patriarchy in order to suggest ways it might be ended. The one that is easiest to read, and that I highly recommend for you, Rush, is Riane Eisler’s The Chalice and the Blade.
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Now, Rush, you, and the sadly misinformed men who support your worldview, may think that you are in the catbird seat in this male-dominated culture, but alas, that’s not true. Both sexes are suffering deeply from this profound power imbalance and denial of our nature as sacred sexual beings. There is a deep distrust eroding our relationships and making it so difficult for men and women to open their hearts to one another. Case in point: Rush, you’ve been married four times. I imagine that’s not what you intended. Like most of us, I’m guessing you were striving for a rewarding relationship with a woman that included mutual respect, support, trust, passion, intimacy, and joy.. But to create this kind of relationship, we have to be willing to acknowledge the wounds we all share from growing up in this divisive culture, and to work with one another to heal them.
Men and women in the human potential movement (see Association for Humanistic Psychology) have been working to do this for the past 50 years.