What Is Your Online Dating IQ?


What Is Your Online Dating IQ?
10 questions to help you learn things about how to meet the RIGHT MEN online, the RIGHT way.

I know I sound like a broken record about the benefits of dating online, especially if you are single and over 40. I’m going to continue to nag you about this because I want what you want: for you to find the man of your dreams, and to never let each other go.
Getting online is the best way to make that happen.

Go ahead, take the test, I promise you’ll learn things about how to meet the RIGHT MEN online, the RIGHT way. Like your mother used to say “You’ll thank me later.”

True or False:
1.    You should never respond if a guy just “winks” at your profile and doesn’t email first.
2.    Spelling or grammatical errors tell you a lot about the man.
3.    It’s important to list your requirements and deal breakers in your online profile.
4.    Run your profile by your best girlfriends to get their feedback before posting.
5.    Never overtly flirt in your initial emails. He’ll get the wrong idea.
6.    It’s OK to email him again if he doesn’t respond at first.
7.    If a man you haven’t yet met doesn’t call when he says he will or get back to you within a week, forget him and move on.

Multiple Choice:
8.    The fastest growing segment of online daters is :
A)    Over 30 year olds
B)    Over 40 year olds
C)    Over 50 year olds

9.    In a recent AARP study of over 50 year olds what percentage are currently in love:
A)    40%
B)    55%
C)    70%

10.    In this same study, what percentage of over 65 year olds report being passionately in love:
A)    25%
B)    46%
C)    60%

(I know these last two were not directly about online dating, but I want you to get some perspective on how many people over 50 are in love. And just know that can be you!)


1.    You should never respond if a guy just “winks” at your profile and doesn’t email first.

False. In general I advise to wait for an email, but if someone catches your eye and winks at you, go ahead and respond. Larry winked at me, sister. I’m glad I answered back! When opportunity arises, on or offline…seize the moment!

2.    Spelling or grammatical errors tell you a lot about the man.

False. Some of the most brilliant people are horrible spellers. Don’t let it be a deal breaker unless “Good Speller” is on your must-have list. (What else is on your deal breaker list that really isn’t that important?)

This article was originally published at . Reprinted with permission from the author.
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Bobbi Palmer

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The Dating and Relationship Coach for Women over 40 and founder of Date LIke a Grownup.
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