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[Video] How Do I Get Myself to Think Nice Guys Are Hot?

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[Video] How Do I Get Myself to Think Nice Guys Are Hot?
One of the questions asked was something like this: How do I get myself to like the good guys?

Last weekend was my live event in Los Angeles: Mastering the Art of Magnetizing Men. During this two-day event I gave women tons of advice and step-by-step tips to help them attract quality men so they could finally meet their loving lifetime partner.

If you’re familiar with my teaching and writing, you know that I frequently talk about “the good guys.” These are the only men we at Date Like a Grownup care about. You should always try to meet these guys, especially if you’re dating after 40!

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As I taught during the event, the good guys are the men who Show Up, Step Up and Grow Up. You don’t have to ask yourself “why didn’t he call?” because he calls. You don’t have to ask “is he in to me? because he shows you loud and clear. If you’re not looking to meet men like this; you’re not going to find a partner who can really make you feel safe and adored…even for a month. (And forget forever.)

One of the questions asked was something like this: How do I get myself to like the good guys? I remember having that very question. I was never attracted to the men who wanted me. And the men I wanted had very little use for me. (Sound familiar?)  ‘

The dorky guys — the too nice guys — they just never turned me on. How about you?

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Well, now that I’m delightfully married to one of these good guys, it’s my mission to help you break out of your “type” and start looking at men a whole different way. This video is a very small part of my answer to this question: How do I get myself to like the good guys?

What you think about this? How do you tell if a man is someone you want to know better? What are your signals that tell you he’s has potential to be a great husband or life partner? Do you even ask yourself that when you pick who you like? Also, if you’re interested in watching the video of the full event, leave me a message or email me at bobbip@datelikeagrownup.com and I’ll let you know how you can purchase it and get immediate access.

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The Dating and Relationship Coach for Women over 40 and founder of Date LIke a Grownup.
Register for Bobbi's free monthly webcasts Grownup Girls' Night Out: Let's Talk About Men! where she gives you tips and tools about dating, sex, relationships and more!
 


 

Location: Long Beach, CA
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Specialties: Communication Problems, Dating/Being Single Support, Empowering Women, Wellness
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