I explain that men think very differently than us; it’s futile to try to guess what they’re thinking. We need to always make room for the reality that often we can’t even imagine what’s on their minds. We need to ask them; the proper way. The way that men respond to.
I asked her if she had a nice time; was he a nice man? Yes. Then, a few more questions, and finally…after a deep sigh she says “well, I’d go out with him again but I don’t think he’ll call; I think I sent him the ‘I’m not interested vibe’”.
Uh…oops. Opportunity missed.
These mental gymnastics can lead you to a make believe world from which you may never escape. I don’t have empirical proof, but I bet this is one of the top reasons dating never moves to a relationship.
Dating is hard enough. There are real challenges. Don’t make it harder by spending time and energy on what doesn’t exist.
Take in everything you can from every experience. Accept that it takes time to get to know someone. Learn to communicate with men, including how and when to ask questions. Train yourself to recognize when you know something versus when you’ve made it up.
You will never master reading men’s minds…but you can master quieting yours.
For more, read my post How to Create Your Own Reality and Simply Screw Things Up.