Ten Terrific Tips To Change How You Think About Dating


Ten Terrific Tips To Change How You Think About Dating
Little or no success with dating? Kick start positive change with these ten tips!

Everyone survived Valentine's Day without moping about her singlehood, right? Let's make this your last February fourteenth without a great guy by your side!

To do that, you’re going to have to make some changes. Put simply, stagnation is never good. When you refuse to change or embrace new challenges, you’re not going to get any of the good stuff that comes with opening yourself up to new experiences.

What’s keeping you from doing that? If you’re reading this, I can only assume you want to find a fantastic man to share your life with. How long have you been on the soul mate search?

If you keep doing the same things the same way, your situation isn’t going to change. If a rabble of Mr. Rights haven’t been beating down your door, then logic dictates it’s time to try something else.

Chances are pretty good that your long-term singlehood has meant you’ve built a lovely life for yourself. I’d be willing to bet you’re happy with who you are on a basic level, but wouldn’t you love to be extraordinary? That’s how it’s going to play out if you find that special someone to share your days and nights with.

But I know that’s not how it is right now. You have to step up to the plate and make it happen. Setting out with that intention means accepting that you’re going to have to do a little growing and learning.

To find the man who’s going to be your perfect partner and best friend, you’re going to have to commit to becoming the absolute best “you” that you possibly can. I speak from experience, ladies. For almost three decades I lived with an “I’m-happy-without-a-man-but-I-sure-would-like-to-have-one” attitude. I waited for Mr. Right to stumble across my path, believing I’d eventually nab a guy who was perfect for me.

But over time, I got bored, frustrated and just a little bit angry at this approach. That’s when I admitted to myself that I’d have to be way more proactive. I committed to making some fundamental changes in my lifestyle and in myself, and now I’m married to the man of my dreams.

Want to know how I did it? To find the man who brought untold love and affection into my life, I had to do things differently. You can do the same thing.

Don’t panic yet! Your change doesn’t have to life-altering or desperately drastic. Take baby steps, changing things just a little at a time to see how the shift feels. Take the time to determine how it impacts your daily experience and the way you feel about it.

Here are ten tips to get you started.

They’re all simple, so don’t limit yourself to choosing just one. The more you try, the more success you’ll find!

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Bobbi Palmer

Dating Coach

The Dating and Relationship Coach for Women over 40 and founder of Date LIke a Grownup.
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Location: Long Beach, CA
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Specialties: Communication Problems, Dating/Being Single Support, Empowering Women, Wellness
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