Should You Trust Your Instincts?

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Should You Trust Your Instincts?
Intuition isn't always right!

Do I think intuition can play a part of making a decision? Yes. Do I think it can be used as the sole basis of a decision? Nope; unless you have a very special gift of clairvoyance.

Let’s be honest: the “intuition” that tells you after 10 minutes that he’s not for you is simply telling you that you can’t imagine kissing him, and certainly being in bed with him.

 

So here’s what I’ll tell you: slow down and gather some information before you judge and bolt. Approach meeting men with the kindness, openness, and the self-awareness of a grown-up woman looking for a meaningful relationship. (That is you, isn’t it?)

Pay attention to your instincts, but check yourself to make sure you’re not just judging on superficial nonsense. Yes…it’s what I said: nonsense. I can’t tell you how many times women tell me that after an hour or so with a man he started looking more attractive to her. Or after I force a client to date a guy with a different look than they’re used to, they tell me how glad they are to have done it.

This is my story, btw. If I had gone with my immediate instincts when I met Larry I’d still be online looking for advice rather than here giving it. Thank goodness I hung around to find out what an incredibly loving and hot man he is.

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Bobbi Palmer

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The Dating and Relationship Coach for Women over 40 and founder of Date LIke a Grownup.
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