The One Word You Can Use To Magnetize The Right Man


The One Word You Can Use To Magnetize The Right Man
Bobbi Palmer tells women dating over 40 the one word that will change how men respond to them.

This is exactly why the first step in my 6-Step Find Hope and Find Him coaching system is helping you get to know and appreciate yourself in a deep and honest way...and then share who you are with other people.

This is not a skill most women possess. To actually love oneself and talk about oneself seems self-centered and braggadocios. This is especially true for those of us gals who are dating over-40. A lady just doesn't do that!


Welp, sister, get over it. It's a skill you can learn and I'm going to help you do it right here, right now. This is going to completely change the way you connect with -- and attract -- confident and available men. (It helps with all people, but men are what we care about here.)


I have a technique you can use to help you confidently express the real you and draw in the right man in a big way. At the same time it helps you get to know and love yourself! It's a bit of a trick. I call it “Getting to the Because.” Because statements look like this:

“I'm a hair dresser and I love it BECAUSE I get to be my own boss and be creative, I love helping people feel and look beautiful, and many of my customers end up being my lifelong friends.”



“I became a Dentist BECAUSE that’s what my parents wanted me to do. I'm good at it and I like it, but these days I focus more on what I want, which is to learn all I can about sailing so I can sail around the world some day.”

Do you see how using "because" makes it completely different than just spewing out your job title? I"m a hair dresser. I'm a dentist. Snoooooze.

Using this one word helps you share some really juicy stuff about your character, personality, values and dreams. All in a sentence or two.

And here's the icing on the cake: it also helps you learn about yourself! For instance, you can complete these sentences:

  • I'm a good mom because…
  • I like to vacation in Hawaii because…
  • My ultimate dream for my life is to…because….
  • I like to hike because...

Go ahead and do this exercise. I do this almost every day with women I coach and what comes out of their mouth always surprises them and is super delightful. You can also practice your because statements on friends and family.

If you start using this today I guarantee you that your connections and conversations will change for the better. Instantly. Let me know how it goes for you!

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Bobbi Palmer

Dating Coach

The Dating and Relationship Coach for Women over 40 and founder of Date LIke a Grownup.
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Location: Long Beach, CA
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Specialties: Communication Problems, Dating/Being Single Support, Empowering Women, Wellness
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