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One Thing That Makes Anthony a Little Less of a Weiner

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One Thing That Makes Anthony a Little Less of a Weiner
When a man makes a fidelity or commitment mistake, it's HIS job to stand up and take responsibility.

Have you heard about Weinergate? Just in case you haven't, it goes like this:

Congressman Anthony Weiner, after denying it for days, got caught quite literally with his pants down. (Yeah, I know I'm not the first to use that. But it works.) Apparently The Weiner has been acting like a horny 16 year old, sexting endlessly to women he doesn't even know. (Nor, as I keep hearing reported, did he know their ages. Uh-oh.)

Once known as one of New York's most eligible bachelors, Weiner is now married to a highly accomplished, brilliant and beautiful woman. (I'm going to show her respect by not mentioning her name; this isn't about her.) Here is what Hillary Clinton, her former employer, said about "Ms. Weiner": "She is timeless. Her combination of poise, kindness, and intelligence are matchless."

Doesn't this just piss you off?? Tony-boy is now the man we love to hate—and rightly so. Do I think he's a cheater? Hell yeah, I do! I feel betrayed beyond belief, and he doesn't sleep in my bed every night.

Mr. Weiner didn't just betray his wife and family. A la Bill Clinton, his unconstrained lust and damn silliness betray tens of millions of Americans who were counting on him to help improve their lives. He may be unelectable now, which royally screws them. (And without getting kissed, as my dad would say).

Way to go, Weiner. Hope those lonely orgasms were worth it.

So…you're probably wondering what the heck I can find that makes him less dick-ish. Here it is: he didn't have his wife standing there with him. There is only one thing that ticks me off more than a lyin' cheater who breaks solemn oaths: one who has the audacity to have his "victim" stand by his side as he spouts his mea culpas and tries to save his ass.

Larry Craig, Elliot Spitzer , Kobe Bryant , Jon Corzine, John Ensign… they all had their dutiful wives next to them as if to make the point that "it really wasn't that bad" or that maybe she bears some part of the responsibility. Bullcrap. It was that bad and it was all about him.

I know what you're thinking: the wives should be embarrassed and looked down upon for agreeing to stand there. I agree to some extent. But as a woman who is madly in love with her husband, what would I do were I suddenly hit between the eyes with this, and with the whole world watching? I honestly don't know.

Just like The Weiner did, regardless of what the guy's wife is willing to do, these men should stand in front of the cameras, accept responsibility and take the consequences. Alone. Like a Man.

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