How to Get (the Right) Man to Like You

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How to Get (the Right) Man to Like You
Tips for helping women dating over 40 learn how to communicate better in their online profiles.

You could say, “I’ve run 5 marathons over the last 2 years and won 2 of them.” Yep…you are kinda bragging.

Or, you could say, “I love running marathons! I like the challenge, I love being outdoors, and the endorphins keep me feeling high for days.” This tells him you're an accomplished athlete, outdoorsy and upbeat. It will likely lead to an opportunity to talk about your wins, which you definitely should do…just don't lead with it.

It is particularly difficult to stay in our feminine energy when we talk about our careers. I'll show you how. (This is one of my best tips ever! See…bragging.)

You could say, “I’m a Tax Attorney and a senior partner with the law firm of Smith, Jones and White.”

Or, “I’m a tax attorney. I love my job because I get to help people through a difficult time in their lives. It’s always challenging, which I love, and I'm good at it!” Using the magic words I love my job because…leads you right into your feminine way of telling him that you are compassionate, like a good challenge, and are happy in your career.

You can see the major difference, right? Hey, this is a great opportunity to create your own nugget! Finish the sentence "I love/like my job because…" Go on, do it now.

Mr. Smart, Confident and Caring needs to know more about you than that you win marathons, have a big career, have two kids, or like to see adventure movies. He wants to know YOU. Just like you want to know more about him than his job title and golf score.

I don't have empirical data, but I believe this to be one of the main reasons second dates don't take place. You may be giving your "stats" or telling him long stories…but did he really learn anything of SUBSTANCE?

A great pride of mine is my work for social justice around the world. My husband absolutely digs that about me. Don't you want your man to love what you love about yourself? Let men know who you are; and when the right one crosses your path, both of you will know it.

PS: Remember that we are talking nuggets, not stories. My husband says that women talk in stories, but men listen in headlines. Yup…I dig his brilliance.

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The Dating and Relationship Coach for Women over 40 and founder of Date LIke a Grownup.
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