Do Something Different Today to Improve Your Search for Love

By

While you’re at it, feel free to peruse the lingerie section and fantasize a little. Again… smile.

8. Ask the guy behind you in line any insignificant question. I don’t know what. Just think of something. Try “Do you know what time they close today?”

9. Ask another stylish woman for a referral to her salon and make an appointment for a pedicure or new hairstyle.

10. Ask two men you trust to tell you something about men they think every woman should know.

One last thing. You must do one more giant thing differently today: silence those old recordings in your head that have been guiding your response and relationship to men. You know what I’m talking about. “If a man doesn’t like me the way I look, he’s superficial and he’s not for me anyway.” “I don’t need to ask a man to help me do anything. I’ve been doing things myself for a long time, and quite well!” “I’m too shy or bloated or busy or tall or out of practice or chubby or scared or independent to talk to some strange man in the grocery store.”

Stop that! Just for one day. When I tell you that I was expert in singing those tunes that is an understatement. Back in the day, I won the prize for sabotaging self-talk. You can, and you will, stop it; with practice.

Big change starts with one small step. Do something to get you to connect, learn something, feel pretty, or feel powerful. You just might learn that it’s not so scary, alter your perception, and enjoy some new and positive experiences. And hey, you might even have some fun!

Article contributed by
Advanced Member

Bobbi Palmer

Dating Coach

The Dating and Relationship Coach for Women over 40 and founder of Date LIke a Grownup.
Register for Bobbi's free monthly webcasts Grownup Girls' Night Out: Let's Talk About Men! where she gives you tips and tools about dating, sex, relationships and more!
 


 

Location: Long Beach, CA
Credentials: Other
Specialties: Communication Problems, Dating/Being Single Support, Empowering Women, Wellness
Other Articles/News by Bobbi Palmer:

4 Ways To Learn About His Past Relationships Without Being Sneaky

By

The general belief is that you learn a lot about someone by knowing their relationship history. Find out the details about his marriages and romances that didn't work out and you'll get a good idea of whether or not he's relationship worthy, right? When we're dating after 40, the men we're meeting have decades of this history. They can ... Read more

The Happy Truth About Men & Commitment (and Clooney’s Wedding)

By

When I say these two words — MEN and COMMITMENT — what comes to mind? Men are commitment phoebes? Men are afraid of marriage? Men just want the milk without buying the cow? Anything like this pop into your brain? A lot of women — especially women who are dating over 40 — believe that men are far more interested in getting ... Read more

A Single Man's Thoughts About Your Body (Part 1)

By

This post is from a 50-something anonymous Man-Fan.  He took his time to share his experience and point of view on what grownup men find attractive in women. I absolutely love what he’s sharing with you. Soak it up! And thank you Mr. Anonymous! As a woman, how do you determine if men find you attractive? Do you compare yourself against what you ... Read more

See More

PARTNER POSTS
Latest Expert Videos
ASK YOURTANGO MORE QUESTIONS
Most Popular