My idea for today's post came from a seminar I hosted last week called "Making Sense of Men." It was co-led by a trainer for PAX Programs International, which is in the business of educating women about men. If you haven't familiarized yourself with PAX, which is the brilliant work of Alison Armstrong, I can't recommend it enough. I attended my first course with them 10 years ago, and it was a life-changing experience.
Alison's mission is helping men and women understand each other, which inevitably leads to deeper and richer relationships and creates peace between the sexes. It also eliminates the craziness that comes from trying to figure out what the heck the opposite sex is thinking and feeling and why they do what they do. (I know you're familiar with that craziness, right?) 3 Signs He's Not The Marrying Kind
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A key point in this understanding for women is this:don't expect your man to behave like your girlfriend. I cannot stress the importance of this! Do you know why we are so often disappointed by men? Because we expect them to be behave based on how a women would act. It's all we know. We don't leave room for men to be men. We consider how they think and feel, but it's generally not based on any real knowledge; it's based on how we would think and feel.
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One of the keys to finding a fabulous man to share your life is to commit to learning about men. When you do, you will find that, as Alison says, they are not wrong, they are just different. Men are so different from us, and once you "get them," you'll see their magnificence and absolutely love, love love them like I and so many women I work with do.
Here are a few simple examples of how our differences play out in dating. Did you know: