Unlike The 18 Year Old, she doesn’t need to have butterflies nor feel the big Shazam like The Wow-Me Woman. She doesn’t even need a great first date. She is a little foggy as to what she wants in a man and doesn’t have much on her “list” other than mutual attraction. If he’s turned on to her, she’s usually turned on to him.
The Sexpot’s idea of intimacy has not been updated since her 20s. (Though she is more skilled, which the men surely appreciate!) She treats any performance issue as a huge deal. She is usually less than diplomatic with this sensitive, very common male issue.
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Like all of us, The Sexpot wants true love and acceptance. She just doesn’t know how to attract and nurture it. Her first step toward this is finding her true self-worth beyond her sexuality.
Step #1 of my practical and proven 6-Step Find Hope and then Find Him system is all about getting to know and then falling in love with yourself. This step is the key to The Sexpot (and all other grownup women looking for love) moving away from her bad love habits and into a satisfying relationship.
After she is clear on all the wonderful things she has to offer, she needs to step back from her 18-year-old version of what she wants in a guy. Step #2 of my Find Hope and then Find Him program will help her get crystal clear about the man and relationship that will truly make her happy….for the long run (rather than for a night or a month).
When The Sexpot meets a grownup guy she likes, consciously holding off on initiating sex is important so she can start breaking her habits. One huge advantage of looking for love over 40 is that mature, grownup guys will wait to have sex if they are interested in you as a partner. I hear this constantly from men.
To reiterate: if you just want to enjoy sex at this time of your life, I say go for it! But if you’re looking for love, it’s not the place to start. Getting to know someone stimulates the biggest sex organ of all: the brain! When you start there, relationships are created…even with men.
* If you haven’t already, I recommend you read What Dating Is Like for Men (Oh…ya think you know?).
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After talking to countless men I’ve identified the Six FemiTypes: The Princess, The 18 year old, The Scaredy Cat, The Wow Me Woman, The Bitter Gal and The Sexpot. I’m sharing what I’ve learned with you to help you understand and appreciate the men you’re meeting. This empathy will surely lead you to become a more grownup, compassionate and HAPPY dater and, ultimately, life partner.