8 Tips for Not Turning to Mush around Men


8 Tips for Not Turning to Mush around Men
Successful dating is about being your authentic self, not hiding behind who you THINK you should be.

7. While you look for Mr. I Love You, continue to enjoy your already full life and take care of yourself. If you're not doing this, get started NOW. The more you like yourself and your life, the more comfortable you'll feel connecting with confident and impressive men.

8. Think of meeting men and dating like anything else in your life. Figure out what you want and decide how you're going to get it.

Let the people you love support you. Talk to them, share your hopes, and let them help. Keep learning about yourself and about men. Keep growing.

Have fun, love yourself, and get out there so you can start meeting and dating with confidence. You are in charge, sister.
Now take this list and identify the two things that, if you did them, would most positively impact your ability to meet men and create a wonderful love life.

Write at least four ACTION steps you will take in the next two weeks. Maybe you'll commit to chatting up one man every day or to creating your check-in question. Maybe you'll list the wonderful things you have to offer or find out how you can learn more about becoming the confident woman you need to be.

I'm on your side. Send the action steps you choose to concentrate on to me in an email to bobbip [at] datelikeagrownup [dot] com so I can hold you accountable by following up with you.

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Bobbi Palmer

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The Dating and Relationship Coach for Women over 40 and founder of Date LIke a Grownup.
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