5 Tips for Boomer Women Dating Online

By Bobbi Palmer. Posted on Jan 26th 2010.

5. Check your baggage

Yes, I do mean don't drag your nasty divorce, money troubles, or last case of gout into the conversation. (At least not anywhere near the beginning of getting to know someone.) But, as important, don't drag in all those beliefs and decisions you made 20 years ago. The woman you are today is nowhere near the girl who dated way back when. I’m telling you to check all your checklists. Check the one that defines “the perfect man” and what he must do or not do to get to the next date? Check the one that has all your “truths” about yourself, about dating, and about men. It’s important to take time to ground yourself in who you are and what you want in your life today. Do this by yourself, with a friend, or with a coach. But do it.

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