#3. Pace Yourself
Slow and steady wins the race – and the right guy. My advice is to date as many guys as you can without losing your mind. Don’t suspend your Match.com account just because your heart is going pitter-patter over someone you’ve gone out with a few times.
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Keep answering the “likes” and emails that appeal to you. Try to keep yourself open to all men until you have an exclusive relationship. You’ve waited this long for your Mr. Right, so don’t waste six months on a guy who wants to see you once a week. (Even though you want him all the time.) Maybe it will turn into more, but in the meantime please keep your options open. Don’t ignore all those guys in your inbox looking for attention. They’ve picked you already…you’re more than 50% there!
If you go “all-in” too soon, you’ll likely go down the crazy woman’s path of dashed hopes and disappointments and burn yourself out. Keep your head and wits about you, stay open, and remember that regardless of what a man who doesn’t know you thinks, you are a special, lovely woman who deserves love.
Stay in it…and it will come. I know. It did for me and (literally) millions of other women.
Ultimately, I learned that the only way to find a lasting and loving relationship is to become a smart, confident, and complete woman who merits the love of a good man.
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A large part of that journey is being open to learning and having the courage to do new things, even when they’re difficult or scary. Personally, I finally realized that the real scary thing was being single forever. So I hopped online the RIGHT WAY and found the love of my life.