How To Talk To Your Son About Masturbating

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How To Talk To Your Son About Masturbating [EXPERT]
Talking to your teen about masturbating can be difficult. Use this advice to make it easier!

Dear Dr. Greenberg,

I have an embarrassing situation going on in my home. My son is 15 years old, and for the past month I have walked in to my home while he was masturbating in the living room. Just yesterday, he fell asleep after doing it on his bed with the door open. I am also noticing lotion or spray on his shirts. I do not know how to handle this. Should I confront him about it? Study Says: Young Girls Aspire To Be Sexy

Sincerely,

Anonymous

Dear Anonymous,

You asked a very sensitive and thoughtful question. It is normal for your teenage son to be exploring his sexuality through masturbating. I can assure you that he is in the good and plentiful company of teenagers everywhere. Like you, I am concerned that he is doing this publicly in the living room and in his bedroom with the door open.

I think that you must talk to him, but not in a way that shames and embarrasses him. Instead, speak to your son in a way that educates him. In a calm and sensitive manner. Be conscious of his budding sexuality and talk to him about how masturbation is normal. Tell him that it is a private behavior, that should be confined tp private spaces with the door closed. Let him know that you will knock on his bedroom door before entering to ensure his privacy. 7 Signs You Masturbate Too Much

I am not sure why he is masturbating in public parts of the house. Is it possible that he wants feedback about whether or not his behavior is normal, or that he has not learned about "masturbation etiquette?" He may be using the lotion as a lubricant and perhaps the spray is his best attempt to remove stains. I am not sure, but I don't think that it is necessary to inquire about this. Good luck as you approach this very sensitive topic. 3 Tips For Talking To Your Kids About Sex

My Best,

Dr. G.

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