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Love, Self

Learn the ingredients to the Recipe for Happiness.

Here's a quote from the sensational book, The Secret, by Rhonda Byrne. She states on page 118, "Many people have sacrificed themselves for others, thinking when they sacrifice themselves that are being a good person." Wrong!

To sacrifice yourself can only come from thoughts of absolute lack, because it is saying, "There is not enough for everyone so I will go without." Those words do not feel good and will eventually lead to resentment—your job is you. When you make feeling good a priority, that magnificent frequency will radiate and touch everyone close to you."

This is a great Recipe for Happiness. Particularly for women, I find that sacrificing ourselves for others simply leads to depletion, fatigue, anger and an emotional gas tank that is trying to run on empty. At best we just feel cranky and tired. At worst we can feel depressed. This is very serious business for women. 

That is why in my Seven Gateways to Happiness, the pivotal Gateway is the Gateway of Replenishment and Joy. Without taking the time to walk through that Gateway and to know how to "feed" yourself emotionally, physically and spiritually, you will not "feel good."  And eventually you will not have the energy to even help those you most care about. This is a given, as in The Truth, the Law of Attraction is presented as a given.

Here is a simple Recipe for Happiness to get you started:

Close your eyes and see yourself doing three things that make you feel good. Try to actually feel again that positive sensation you had in the past. Was it in your whole body? Was it a pleasant feeling of comfort, of being loved, of feeling protected? Try to get back to some of the actual sensations. Good.

Pick one of the activities and modify it if you need to. For example, you love to go to the Opera but that is not realistic for today. Modification could be to go to the library and take out a CD of a beautiful opera to listen to in the car.

Do at least one of these activities that make you feel good over the next three days.

Enjoy and you will be "cooking" up some good food for your sense of well-being and also replenishing yourself

Watch my video: 4 Things You Can Do To Be Your Best Self Starting NOW.

Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, internationally known Positive Psychologist is the creator of The Enchanted Self ®, a positive psychology method for happiness. She is in private practice in Long Branch, New Jersey with her husband, Dr. Russell M. Holstein. Dr. Barbara can be found on the web, interviewed, writing articles and posting video 'TED' style talks on Happiness, Positive Psychology, Relationships and Parenting.

She has been a contributor to Heart and Soul, Cosmopolitan Magazine, Redbook, Real Simple, The Wall Street Journal, Time online, the Today Show and Family Circle Magazine. Some of her books include: The Enchanted Self, A Positive Therapy;  The Truth, Diary of a Gutsy Tween and Around Every Corner, Romance & Mystery. All can be found on Amazon.

Major Websites include:, and on Facebook: Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein-Psychologist & Author. Tweet her at: @drbholstein or @truth4girls.

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