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Recipe for Enchantment


Take anything simple, grown from the earth, such as an ear of corn. Modify your own recipe based on my example:

  • Hold it in your hand.
  • See how it feels against your skin.
  • Peel down one piece of stalk.
  • Rub your hand against the kernels.
  • See how they feel against your fingers.
  • Look at the color and savor the essence of a true natural tone of yellow.
  • Now smell the ear of corn.

I am sure that as you smell the earthy freshness you will feel refreshed–perhaps as if you just arrived on a farm for a visit. Does the aroma bring back any pleasant memories for you? Take your time–when fully refreshed cook the corn and enjoy every mouthful.

You have done service to your spirit by helping to enhance your vitality and many dimensions, and you have done service to the ear of corn — hopefully eating it with delight.

Watch my video: Enchanted Gateways

Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein,  internationally known Positive Psychologist is the creator of The Enchanted Self ®,  a positive psychology method for happiness. She is in private practice in Long Branch, New Jersey with her husband, Dr. Russell M. Holstein. Dr. Barbara can be found on the web, interviewed, writing articles and posting video 'TED' style talks on Happiness, Positive Psychology, Relationships and Parenting. She has been a contributor to Heart and Soul, Cosmopolitan Magazine, Redbook, Real Simple, The Wall Street Journal, Time online, the Today Show and Family Circle Magazine. Some of her books include: The Enchanted Self, A Positive TherapyThe Truth, Diary of a Gutsy Tween and Around Every Corner, Romance & Mystery. All can be found on Amazon

Major websites include: Dr Barbara Becker Holstein  and on Facebook: Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein-Psychologist & Author

Tweet her at: @drbholstein or @truth4girls.

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