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One Way to Bring Enchantment into One’s Life is to Help Others …


Here is a simple recipe: Take some time over the next month or two to visit a sick friend, relative or stranger. Perhaps there is even a neighbor down the street who could benefit from some company. If you don’t know who to visit, your minister, rabbi, or priest could easily assign you someone. Here are the simple ingredients to bring with you for the visit:*

  • Make sure the time is convenient.
  • Don’t stay too long.
  • Be a good listener.
  • Be observant.
  • Take an interest in what you can find out about the person just by looking around.
  • Don’t talk about your problems.
  • Make easy, light conversation that includes positive remarks.
  • Maintain a stance of hope and optimism.
  • Listen for and encourage the person to talk about herself. Remember: everyone has a story!
  • Be warm as you leave and give feedback as to what you learned and tell the person that you enjoyed being there.

Leave feeling proud of yourself. "Congratulate yourself on doing a good deed. You have just improved someone’s health by showing her that someone cares."

This is a great recipe because more that one person benefits!

*The ideas for this recipe come from The Hesed Boomerang by Jack Doueck. ‘Hesed’ means doing good.

Watch my video: "Why Bother... Getting Enchanted?”

Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, internationally known Positive Psychologist is the creator of The Enchanted Self ®,  a positive psychology method for happiness. She is in private practice in Long Branch, New Jersey with her husband, Dr. Russell M. Holstein. Dr. Barbara can be found on the web, interviewed, writing articles and posting video 'TED' style talks on Happiness, Positive Psychology, Relationships and Parenting. She has been a contributor to Heart and Soul, Cosmopolitan Magazine, Redbook, Real Simple, The Wall Street Journal, Time online, the Today Show and Family Circle Magazine.

Some of her books include: The Enchanted Self, A Positive TherapyThe Truth, Diary of a Gutsy Tween  and Around Every Corner, Romance & MysteryAll can be found on Amazon.

Major websites include: Dr Barbara Becker and on Facebook: Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein-Psychologist & Author.  Tweet her at: @drbholstein or @truth4girls

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