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3 MAJOR Self-Limiting Beliefs That WILL Hold You Back From Happiness

Limiting Beliefs That Are Holding You Back
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Are they true? Break the cycle and live the life you desire on your terms. I did it, so can you!

Years ago I came to the conclusion I had not been living my life to it's full potential. I was in a rut for years and wondered why things were always happening to me. Why was I depressed and feeling hopeless? How would I ever get out of this mess? When I came to the realization things were happening for me and not to me the light bulb went off. I was in charge of my life and what I allowed into it. I was responsible for the changes I wanted to see. It was up to me to get what I wanted out of life and not depend on someone else for my happiness. I lived many years with limiting beliefs. 

When we go through life with limiting beliefs it can be hard to believe we can change them. How do we go about making changes that will break the cycle and move us towards the life we desire? We must first identify what our limited beliefs are, that's when change starts to happen. The three most common ones that will hold you back from the life you desire are:

  1. I’m not worthy. I'm not worthy enough to have love in my life, the relationship or career I want.
  2. I don’t deserve it. I don't deserve to be happy or have beautiful things in my life.
  3. I'm stuck where I am. It will never happen for me so why try. 

Digging deeper will help you release limiting beliefs. Anytime a limiting belief such as these come up ask yourself:

  • Is this really true? Do I really believe this?
  • Where did these limiting beliefs come from?  

In answering these questions for myself I realized my limiting beliefs were due to circumstance. They were coming from a place other than that of myself. This combined with my low self-esteem, which I struggled with for decades, was a combination for trouble. For years I struggled with who I was, where I fit in, what I was meant to do, was I good enough, pretty enough, worthy enough. My lack of self-esteem and confidence as a young child grew with me to adulthood. When I married, those attributes were the ones my former husband fed. My limiting beliefs grew from years of hearing I was worthless, I was never going to amount to much, nothing I did was good enough or smart enough. Something deep down inside me told me this was not the truth. I was made to feel insecure and worthless to the point of not wanting to get out of bed in the morning. Depression set in. I reached a point where it was time to change or live this way the rest of my life. It may have been scary to leave my past behind but not taking a leap of faith would have been scarier.

With time, lot's of self-compassion and understanding, I realized I was worthy of love, good relationships, and a career where I could flourish. I deserved to have good things happen for me and beautiful things to come into my life. I allowed myself believe I could do and be whatever I wanted with the realization I was far from stuck. The support of family and friends was always there, I did not have to do it on my own and there was no shame in asking for help. God was always by my side. I was the pioneer of my own destiny. It was my choice to blaze my own trail my own way with no fear of judgment. People's opinions of me and towards me no longer mattered.

Years of living with limited beliefs chip away at your soul, at your very being. After awhile enough is enough and you begin to see there is another way of life. Making the decision to "own it" is extremely empowering. We are, after all, the masters of our own happiness.

Whenever your limiting beliefs began, or the circumstance that caused them, the cycle can be broken. There is hope and change upon the horizon if you want it and you're ready to go after it. It's up to you. Only you know your circumstances and only you can determine what will serve you best. But know this: you are amazing, you are worthy and the sky's the limit.

Barbara Ann Bruno is the author of two Amazon best sellers; Take Back Your Life One Relationship at a Time and Removing the Mask. She is an Integrative Nutrition Health Coach, Lifestyle Empowerment Coach, and DietFreeLife Coach. She specializes in empowering women to lead the life they desire. Contact Barbara today for a complimentary 30 minute session.

 

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