“In the Babemba tribe, when a person acts irresponsibly or unjustly, he or she is placed in the center of the village, alone and unfettered. All work ceases, the entire village gathers around the accused individual, then each person of every age begins to talk out loud to the accused. One at a time each person tells all the good things that the one in the center ever did in his or her lifetime. Every incident, every experience that can be recalled with any detail and accuracy is recounted. All positive attributes, good deeds strengths and acts of kindness are recited carefully and at length. No one is permitted to fabricate, to exaggerate or to be facetious about the accomplishments or the positive aspects of the accused person. The tribal ceremony often lasts several days, not ceasing until everyone is drained of every positive comment that can be mustered. At the end, the tribal circle is broken, a joyous celebration takes place, and the person is symbolically welcomed back into the tribe. The necessity for such ceremonies is rare; it only occurs once in every 4 or 5 years.”
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When we change our point of focus as the Law of Attraction states, we begin to open up to opportunities otherwise unseen. This way of working with a difficult person in your life is a beautiful example of unconditional love. What would it look like if you took this practice and applied it to your own life? How might your relationships change? What possibilities could this type of love and caring open up? We will only know the truth of this by doing it within our own lives. Here is an opportunity to see with new eyes, and hear with new ears. This practice is called many things, and much like a Gratefulness Journal, allows us to put our focus on what we appreciate, and what we feel grateful for.
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