Initiating an Intimate Relationship With a Woman

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You might say things like, "You look so inviting sitting across the table from me" or "I love the admiration I see in your eyes right now.” Tell her all the little things that feel good or entice you, such as "I love your upturned nose, it’s such a turn-on" or "I get excited just touching your fingers.” Just be sure it is true or it will ring hollow. This positive feedback must not end when you hit the sack. Unfortunately, men tend towant to stop talking during and after love-making, but that is a big mistake. Feel free to ask that your needs be met; and listen to what your lover says as well. If she says something like, "I need to be held close after making love" or "I need you to stay overnight" then try to accommodate her, knowing that if you do so, you’ve taken a big step toward making a lasting relationship in which you will enjoy some dynamite sex as a byproduct in the future.

If your partner is reluctant to open up, ask questions that will help her open up. Some things may just take time while others need work. Take it upon yourself to ask what her deepest desires are, and how you can meet them. They could be exactly what you wanted to hear but you are afraid to say yourself. And if that first love-making session isn't everything you (or she) wanted, be sure you both learn in a positive way what turns you on, and what doesn't.
Once two people have connected in an intimate way, the relationship changes its course. Women feel more vulnerable after sex has entered into the picture. The union either grows stronger at this point, or interest in each other wanes. If you can talk and be more open with each other, the sexual intimacy goes to a deeper level and continues to improve.

 

This is an excerpt from <em>What Women Want in Bed</em> by Dr Ava Cadell. Visit The Loveology University Bookstore to find a wealth of resources, including e-books and audiobooks, to help you have a richer and more fulfilling sex life -- http://www.loveologyuniversity.com/BookStore.aspx?a_aid=sward

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Ava Cadell

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Location: West Hollywood, CA
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Specialties: Couples/Marital Issues, Dating/Being Single Support, Sex Therapy
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