50 Things You Should Try For Hotter Sex

Initiating an Intimate Relationship With a Woman


Sure it can be difficult to talk about sex because you weren't given courses in school on how to do it. And most likely, your parents didn't give you much help in this area, either. You’ll have to work at it, exploring as you go along, picking up on where to head next by the reactions of your partner. The key ingredient is that you can’t go into a relationship expecting to know a gal’s needs by osmosis, nor can you expect her to know your needs.

In lovemaking, being aware of this ahead of time can make you a powerful lover. Failure to pick up this knowledge can make you the bumbling guy that can't measure up to her expectations. One good start (if it is sincere) is to explain to a woman how much you respect her and want to please her. Just be careful and really mean it, because this line can be seen as that of the smooth-talking man, only interested in a quick one-night stand. If you don’t mean it, don’t say it, because nothing turns a woman off faster than an insincere man interested only in sex. Sincerity builds confidence. If you believe in what you say it makes it easier for others to follow along.

As you ask what she likes in the way of sex, go slowly; the more time you take, the more excitement you build up, and the more barriers you break down. Tantalize your partner with the possibility you can fulfill her wildest dreams and fantasies. Think of this as verbal foreplay because it is just that important to pleasing a woman.

Here are some verbal tips for you: give her plenty of physical, emotional and appreciative compliments in bed and make her feel like a queen. Don’t ever compare her to an old lover or criticize her body. Always let her know that she is a great lover and that you want to please her. These tips will help her to become less inhibited sexually and more adventurous with you. Taking the time to talk about her fantasies or desires can help you to make her feel good.

Share this with someone you love (or even like a lot)!

Let's make it
FB official
Article contributed by
Advanced Member

Ava Cadell


Live to Love ~Dr. Ava Cadell

Personal Website: http://www.AvaCadell.com

Founder of Lovelogy University: http://www.LoveologyUniversity.com

My blog: htto://www.DrAvaBlog.com

Location: West Hollywood, CA
Credentials: EdD, PhD
Specialties: Couples/Marital Issues, Dating/Being Single Support, Sex Therapy
Other Articles/News by Ava Cadell:

Is Porn Actually Good For Your Relationship?


[Editor's note: In addition to being a YourTango Expert, Dr. Ava Cadell is the leading love and sex therapist to Hollywood's biggest stars. Earlier this year, she joined the cast of Bravo's hit show 'LA Shrinks,' which follows high-end relationship experts.] It may not be a popular opinion, but I believe porn can be used for therapeutic ... Read more

Loveology University offers CEUs


Loveology University is proud to be a California Continuing Education Provider for the Board of Behavioral Sciences and the Board of Registered Nurses by affiliation with Dr. Ava Cadell. All of LU's courses offer credits for therapists and counselors who are members of the CA BBS and nurses who are members of the CA BRN that require annual continuing ... Read more

How To Use Forgiveness To Have Better Sex


Passion is at least 50 percent of a relationship, but as time passes, unfortunately, passion is the first thing that diminishes. Quite often, couples become friends, which is great, but where is the passion? It's gone! And the reason it's gone is because you don't continue to do the things you did when you were first dating. You take each other for ... Read more

See More

Recent Expert Posts
Staying Dry

Letting Go Is Hard To Do

Healing your heart after divorce or loss of a spouse is worth the effort. Letting go is hard to do.

cozy up

Showing Love Through Touch

Touch is so incredibly important in relationships.


Listen Up, Darling: A Sex Kitten Is Never Hangry or Tired

Recently I shared eight surprising traits of a sex kitten. Each of those traits are ones that ...

Ask The Experts

Have a dating or relationship question?
Visit Ask YourTango and let our experts and community answer.

How to find the right pro for you
10 Reasons Mental Health Pros Should Join YourTango Experts

10 Reasons Mental Health Pros Should Join YourTango Experts

YourTango Experts can help your business go from good to great.

10 Steps To Improve Your Coaching Business

Take your coaching business from mediocre to great in no time…

Frequently Asked Questions About YourTango Experts

Thinking of joining? Here's all the facts you need to know to make the most of your membership.

Getting Your Guy To Join You In A Therapy Or Coaching Session

So how can your get your strong, self-reliant, superman to talk to an Expert with you?

Therapist/Counselors: Who We Are & What We Do

What exactly does a therapist/counselor do and can they really help?

See more resources>