How To Use Forgiveness To Have Better Sex


How To Use Forgiveness To Have Better Sex
Forgiving your partner and losing resentment is a key step towards better sex.

Step Four: Wish List
Make a "wish list" of 3 things that you think could heighten a sensual experience for you and your partner.

For example:
"I wish you would give me one of those sexy massages you do so well."
"I wish we could spend more time cuddling after we make love."
"I wish I could spend more time in bed with you."


Once you have both written down your wishes, exchange them and make a commitment to make at least one wish come true for each other within 7 days. 5 Simple Actions That Reignite Passion

Step Five: Explore Your Partner's Erogenous Zones
An erogenous zone is any area of the body that produces erotic feelings when stimulated. Remarkably, some people are covered in erogenous zones while others only have a few. The purpose of this Love-Work is to become familiar with your partner's most sensitive areas and to avoid the areas s/he doesn't like.

Before embarking on the pleasure journey, it's a great idea to experience some of your own personal erogenous zones. You can discover your own sexuality by looking at yourself, especially in the mirror, and then touch yourself to find out what really feels good to you. Take the time to do this.

Now it's time to explore your partner's erogenous zones. Decide who will be the first to receive pleasure by flipping a coin. The receiver should then undress and lie on a comfortable bed or sofa completely relaxed. As the giver, the best way to explore the receiver's erogenous zones is to caress, kiss and lick him/her from head to toe, moving only half an inch at a time. Make sure you do not miss a single spot, including any imperfections.

Ask the receiver to rate his/her erogenous zones on a pleasure scale of 0 to 10 with 10 being the most exciting! Keep in mind that yo'’re not being rated on your performance. The areas that are being touched are being rated for their sensitivity and arousal potential. So don't be offended if your partner rates a kiss on the neck a number 5 and a caress on the thighs a number 7. If he/she really doesn't like to have their ears nibbled—even though it totally takes you to heaven, respect that and don't go there again.

The world is made of every possible kind of human being with every stimulus, like and dislike imaginable. It is your mission to discover all your partner's hot spots.

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To really make this advice work, you need to follow these action steps to complete today's challenge.

Right now, I want you to:

Start the process of uncovering any hidden resentments towards your partner. Complete both parts of the exercise and enjoy the atmosphere that forgiveness creates.

Within 7 days I want you to:

Create your wish lists and share them.

By the end of the challenge I want you to:

Explore your erogenous zones, separately and together.

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Ava Cadell


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