How to Love a Woman


Always make your lover the center of your attention.  Don't answer the phone or pager while you’re with her intimately.  If you’re married with children, tell them mom and dad need to have their private play time (and then make them honor that).  Turn off the TV if you don’t want to turn off your woman.  Bring home little trinkets for no special reason.  A single flower or some chocolates will let her know that you were thinking about her, even when she wasn’t with you.



You can also do a lot to set the mood for a woman by stimulating all five of her senses.  Some ways you might do this include:

  • Play her favorite music, whisper sweet love-talk before, during, and after you make love to her.
  • Stimulate her sense of smell with fresh flowers, exotic incense, scented candles, and her favorite cologne.
  • Decorate the bedroom as if you were expecting a VIP to spend the night with pictures, ornaments, and candles.
  • Create new touches with oils, lotions, and powders.
  • Consider making love on satin sheets and then tickle her with feathers.
  • Order in a gourmet dinner or buy delectable snacks and feed her by hand.

You should undress a woman slowly and kiss and caress every part of her skin before making love to her.  Sex should not be a race to the finish line.  Go slowly and make love to each part of her.  And learn how to remove a woman's bra with one hand in the dark so you don’t fumble around and cause the laughter that will break the mood.


Women like to fantasize about an upcoming romantic encounter.  To create sexual anticipation, call her during the day to prepare her for the evenings events.  Tell her what you plan to do to her.  You can also send emails — just remember that what you write is like something you put on a postcard.  Chances are good it will be read by others, so don’t go into too many graphic details.


Every man should learn to give his lover a slow, sensual massage.  Such a time is also good for helping you discover all of her erogenous zones from her toes to the top of her head.  Simply ask her to rate your caresses and kisses from 1 to 10 and remember that she is not rating you, but her erogenous zones.  Make a mental note of where key spots are that she rates 8 and above.


Try using ice, whipped cream, or strawberry jam for foreplay, but be cautious to put it on a woman’s body not inside her.  The key is to build sexual anticipation and take her slowly toward her orgasm and wait to have your orgasm last.


Let your lover know that she’s making a positive difference in your life.  And show her how much you appreciate her by making her breakfast in bed.  Write her love letters.  Give her lots of compliments; physical, emotional, and appreciative ones.


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Ava Cadell


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