How To Give Your Lover A Massage


How To Give Your Lover A Massage

Clitoral Massage

Gently pull the clitoral hood back from the clitoris to expose it.  Then gently slide your thumb and forefinger up and down the sides of the clitoris for about ten strokes.  You may feel it growing as it becomes more excited.  A clitoris can grow three to four times its normal size when it’s fully engorged.  Next, massage the head of the clitoris in circular motions using your forefinger or thumb.  Don’t be surprised if she has a body melting, earth shattering orgasm.  The clitoris has 8000 nerve fibers and it’s the primary sexual organ for a woman.  Most women are capable of having a clitoral orgasm when it is stimulated.

Male Genital Massage

Put plenty of oil in your hands and warm it up by rubbing it with both hands, then slowly spread it all over the penis and testicles. Next place one hand on the shaft of his penis and start stoking it in an up and down motion while the other hand gently encircles his testicles. Do this in slow motion for at least 


Making the Fire

Rub his penis with both hands as if rubbing a stick to make a fire. This is a sure way to light his fire!

Spiraling the Stalk

Both hands go in opposite directions in a corkscrew motion over the penis. One hand twists up while the other hand twists downwards.

Wet and Wild

Now concentrate on just massaging his penis from the top to the bottom covering the glans (head) and sliding your hands down to the base with one hand after another in a fluid motion. Do this for about ten strokes and don’t be surprised if he suddenly climaxes because this stroke feels like he’s inside a tight wet vagina.

A Final Thought

When giving a massage, always remember to let your lover lead you to the places he or she would like to be massaged the most.  Be sure to respond to your lover’s needs—not your own.  Combine stroking and pressure.  Keep in mind, fleshy parts of the body—thighs, arms, buttocks—can stand more pressure than less fleshy parts like necks and ankles.  While you’re massaging, ask your lover to give you feedback in a positive way like, “I love having my nipples massaged.”  Or, “It feels so good when you use your hair on my chest.”  By exploring your lover’s body, you will enhance your relationship and you will find new areas of sexual excitement that will expand your sexual horizon.  Massage is all about giving the most pleasure to your lover that you possibly can.  It is a wonderful way to express yourself.  Don’t forget to take turns.  It’s important that you learn to receive massages as well as give them.  Relax and enjoy!

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Ava Cadell


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