How To Give Your Lover A Massage


How To Give Your Lover A Massage

Nipple Massage

Both men and women have sensation in their nipples, some more than others, so here’s your opportunity to find out how sensitive your lover’s nipples are by giving them a nipple massage.  Use your thumb and index finger to gently massage the nipple in a rotating motion moving clockwise then anti-clockwise.  Ask for feedback so that you get the pressure just right.  Then place your hand gently over the nipple and roll it in the palm of your hand.  Finally, using your thumb and third finger, gently pull up on the nipple so that you are elongating it.  Do one nipple at a time and make sure that all of these motions are done in slow motion. Observe your lover’s body language and listen for pleasure moans and groans.  Ask your lover to rate the nipple massage from 1-10 on a pleasure scale with 10 being the best.


When doing the side pull-ups, basically draw your lover’s body towards you with the palms of your hands alternating one hand after the other.  Do this motion from starting at the hips, moving to the waist, the side of the chest/breast ,and to the armpits just as you did on the back side.


Moving Down to the Feet

Before you get to the sexual organs, you should massage the front of the legs and feet as you did on the other side using all the strokes you have learned so far.  Remember the hand slide, pull-ups, kneading, and feather stroke.  Always end with the feather stroke using your fingertips, nails, and/or hair.

Female Genital Massage

On the female genitals, you might want to use a water-based lubricant because if oil gets inside the vagina, it can cause irritation.  Put the oil in your hands and rub your hands together before placing them on her vagina.  Start by focusing on the vulva, which is the outside visible area of the vagina.

The Landing Strip

Gently rub the oil or lube around her vaginal lips all the way down to her anus.  Using the pad of your thumb, trace the outline of her anus and then slowly slide your thumb up the landing strip (perineum) from her anus to her vaginal opening.


Then gently part her outer lips with both of your thumbs and caress them in circular motions for at least two minutes.  Next, slide your thumbs up and down her outer lips until they are spread apart, and then do the same with her inner lips.  The inner lips are more sensitive than the outer lips so use less pressure.  Watch for her body language and for the swelling of her vaginal lips, which is a natural progression when a woman gets sexually aroused.

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