Dr. Ava Cadell Creates Love Contract for Couples
By Ava Cadell. Posted on .
Mutual Love Agreement™ (MLA)
Create your our own “Love Contract” under your own term
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Purpose: For any situation in which people are in a relationship, dating, living together or married; to create and agree upon a mutual understanding of relationship boundaries.
Why it works: Because both parties are able to express and negotiate their personal needs in a written format and hold each other accountable.
How to facilitate it:
1. Draw up your own definition of a relationship agreement using simple and specific guidelines. Create this document together so that neither one feels coerced by the other.
2. Include and list as many categories as you both need and want.
(For example: social,relationship,sexual, spiritual, family, financial, health, physical, vacation, career, parenting, hobbies, etc.)
3. After all of the categories have been filled in by both parties, read and accepted without any uncertainty, both of you should sign and date it.
What are the benefits?
It is a commitment that you have created together that has nothing to do with the government or church. It can be used as an alternative to a marraige certificate or prenuptial agreement and for all sexual orientations to help avoid conflict during the relationship. It can also be used in conjunction with a marriage certificate or after you have been married for any number of years. It's never too early or too late to create your own love agreement. However, should the relationship breakdown, it can be used to determine property ownership, debt obligations, support obligations, etc.
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Click here to download the Mutual Love Agreement - http://www.loveologyuniversity.com/FCKeditor/editor/filemanager/browser/...
Caution: It may not be admissible in a court of law unless it is approved by an attorney and notarized.
