Dating Tips by Dr. Ava Cadell

By

A single flower or some chocolates will let her know that you were thinking about her.

-------------------------------------------------------------------------------

SLOWER IS BETTER

* Every man should learn to give his lover a sensual massage.
* Take time to discover her erogenous zones from her toes to the top of her head and ask her to rate your caresses and kisses from 1 to 10.
* Use ice, whipped cream, or strawberry jam for foreplay.
* Build sexual anticipation and always wait to have your orgasm last.

--------------------------------------------------------------------------------

LET YOUR LOVER KNOW HE/SHE’S MAKING A DIFFERENCE IN YOUR LIFE

* Make them breakfast in bed.
* Write love letters.
* Ask for his/her wish list.
* Give lots of compliments.
* Go on romantic walks.
* Surprise him/her with a picnic.
* Always kiss goodbye and give a big welcome home.
* Kiss at unexpected times in unexpected places.
* Tell him/her what you love about them the most.
* Phone in the middle of the day just because.
* Take him/her on a fantasy date once a week.
* Record a message of love and leave it where it can be found.

--------------------------------------------------------------------------------

SEX TIPS

* Always urinate after sex to prevent infections.
* Don’t say “I love you” during sex unless you mean it.
* To intensify your orgasms, change your regular sex position.
* Gargle with mouthwash before oral sex. It provides a tingling sensation for your lover.
* Never compare penis or breast size with your lover. It reminds them that you’re thinking of another lover.
* Discuss sexual fears as well as pleasures with your lover.
* Use a lubricant before you need it, to prevent soreness.
* Arouse your lover by licking their eyelids.
* Always use water-based lubricants. (Oil or petroleum-based ones can destroy latex)
* Try latex gloves for finger penetration, especially if you have cuts or abrasions. (gloves will offer a new form of stimulation)
* Don’t forget to put a condom on a sex toy that will be used by more than one person.
* Change condoms when going from the anus to the vagina.
* Don’t leave a hickey high on your lover’s neck, or some other noticeable place, unless they ask you to.
* Don’t place anything used for anal play into a woman’s vagina before cleaning it thoroughly, including your finger.
* Never discuss past lovers with your current partner, unless they ask you to.
* Never let someone tie you up unless you know them well and trust them.
* Never criticize your lover’s mother.
* Never leave the wet spot on your lover’s side.
* Don’t take it personally if your lover doesn’t climax every time.
* Never talk about your daily problems during love-making.
* Don’t send flowers and think everything is OK without communicating with your lover.
* Never seal your mouth over a woman’s vagina and blow air into it when she’s pregnant. It could cause an air embolism and be fatal.
* Don’t argue, insult or criticize your lover in front of friends, family, or in public.
* Be careful about placing food inside a woman’s vagina, especially sugary foods. They can cause infections.
* Don’t use nylon stockings to tie up your lover because they are difficult to untie.
* Keep your eyes open during love-making and watch your lovers face for a different sensation.
* Never argue with your lover before you go to sleep.
* Don’t forget to cuddle after sex.
* Lack of sexual desire is mainly caused by stress and overworking.
* Don’t forget to return your lover’s phone calls without delay; it shows you care

Article contributed by
Advanced Member

Ava Cadell

Counselor/Therapist

Live to Love ~Dr. Ava Cadell

Personal Website: http://www.AvaCadell.com

Founder of Lovelogy University: http://www.LoveologyUniversity.com

My blog: htto://www.DrAvaBlog.com

Location: West Hollywood, CA
Credentials: EdD, PhD
Specialties: Couples/Marital Issues, Dating/Being Single Support, Sex Therapy
Other Articles/News by Ava Cadell:

Is Porn Actually Good For Your Relationship?

By

[Editor's note: In addition to being a YourTango Expert, Dr. Ava Cadell is the leading love and sex therapist to Hollywood's biggest stars. Earlier this year, she joined the cast of Bravo's hit show 'LA Shrinks,' which follows high-end relationship experts.] It may not be a popular opinion, but I believe porn can be used for therapeutic ... Read more

Loveology University offers CEUs

By

Loveology University is proud to be a California Continuing Education Provider for the Board of Behavioral Sciences and the Board of Registered Nurses by affiliation with Dr. Ava Cadell. All of LU's courses offer credits for therapists and counselors who are members of the CA BBS and nurses who are members of the CA BRN that require annual continuing ... Read more

How To Use Forgiveness To Have Better Sex

By

Passion is at least 50 percent of a relationship, but as time passes, unfortunately, passion is the first thing that diminishes. Quite often, couples become friends, which is great, but where is the passion? It's gone! And the reason it's gone is because you don't continue to do the things you did when you were first dating. You take each other for ... Read more

See More

GET MORE ARTICLES LIKE THIS IN YOUR INBOX!

Sign up for our daily email and get the stories everyone is talking about.

Ask The Experts

Have a dating or relationship question?
Visit Ask YourTango and let our experts and community answer.

FROM AROUND THE WEB